I make it all sound soooo easy don't I?!

Chrissy, I so understand your fear but if the both of you are in the same place in your minds at this point there is only one way to go....forward. You shouldn't keep what you feel under wraps just because you are afraid it won't last. Would 40 minutes away stop you in your tracks for someone you may see as promising? If there is truly something there you owe it to yourself to find out. Whether it's a LDR or the latter, take those feelings and your expectations to the next level. Talking, emails, video cam, can help you figure it out. It won't happen overnight!!

Slow and steady wins the race in this scenario. Although I subscribe to instant gratification (on occasion ), it is undoubtedly the downfall in this.

Don't consume yourself too much with the future and live for now and enjoy yourself. The future will come soon enough and then you'll be ready for it with all the work you did in the present!!!

Hope this makes sense.....

It does Michelle. I really appreciate it and it is very helpful.

Yeah. It's really helpful, isn't it?

Oh CHRISSY!!!!!! I know it's not, but I wish it was me you were talking about!!!!!!

I miss you Bill. I hope all is well with you. Did you lose my email or have your fingers been broken?

It can work but it is really gonna be hard.You have to look into all the traveling the 2 people have to do. And the fact that when you or him want each other at that moment it not going happen states apart

First of all, you have to meet them in person.
Its really easy to start crushing on ppl over the internet. I have crushed alot, since I started this whole online thing..it friggen hurts!! Thats why they call them crushes.
Its much easier to project your "dream guy" or "ideal girl" on to an internet person that you are talking to online, or over the phone, than it is on to a person that you are meeting face to face.
It's alot easier to put your best foot forward online or over the phone, than it is in person. The gaps, or the things that we don't know about a person of whom we are fond of, we usually fill those gaps with good attributes.. There are just things that you will never know until u meet face to face. Things that may make you attracted to him more, or maybe even less.

Once you have met in person, and spent some time together, a week or a weekend, then you can make a more sound decision. Is he/she everything that I expected and hoped for?
You have to eliminate any doubts you may have up front.
Long Distance relationships are hard to begin with, and even harder if you never met!
What are you holding out for, or on to? You have to know.
Then if you guys click, in person, I would make every effort to meet as much as possible, also with the idea in the back of your head to make a move to another state or country.
I find that ppl are soo hesitant to move. Why??
I don't get it. I moved countries overnight, and moved from state to state several times. Don't let the distance limit your options!!!
Life is about taking chances!! Start today!!

Ohh by the way if the person is really serious about a serious Long Distance Relationship , he/she will ALWAYS make every effort to meet!!! No excuses!!

Thanks Cind. We have met, hence the dilemma.

Well even better!! You met!! Is he everything you have wished for and hoped for?? Are the feelings mutal?
If yes, it is time to start living for yourself, and not for others, and take the next step, and make Chrissy happy!
Alot of times we are so concerned of what our family will think, what about my kids?? Job, House...yada yada..Your kids and fam will be happy if you are happy.
You obviously care alot about this guy, otherwise you wouln't have made this post..
Meet a few more times, and then off to the next step.
Evaluate both of your current conditions, start planning. Who is going to make the move? Who has the better paying, more stable job? Who has to make the least sacrifices for this move?
I am a Risktaker, so I know it is easy for me to say..but that is what I would do..;)
Good Luck and Be Happy!!!

I think given time, patience, understanding and the will to make it work, is all it needs. Given time it will all come together as planned.