Are there any ladies out there that like good guys, or do they have to go through every jerk possible out there before they realize they want a good guy.... I have always been a good guy and it seems i always get the women who had jerks bring there self esteem so low that it seems like all im doing is building them back up and they initially fall n love with me, than that jerk will end up comming back into the picture and wahbam im dumped, sitting and watching time wasted walk away. of course originally it was not wasted but when u see them leave with the person they said beat them, verbally abused them, even sexually abused them, it makes you sit and wonder and sometimes cry wondering what the frick is wrong with you.. what did you do wrong, can ne one answer this question... Cause i cant stand it, thus the reason im on here, hopefully able to find a girl that dosnt have problems, instead of getting to know them in person, becomming attracted than thinking i can deal with these problems that start to come up, than before you know it , im on the outs cause i helped her deal with them all and she thinks she can go back and change these jerks... and eventually they are adding me to myspace and trying to talk again...

*claps excitedly*....Oh, goody! A "nice guy" thread!

Man , I am so gonna run for my bombshlter now , I already know where this one is heading

lol hey im just curious, why not throw the topic out there and see whats said... i mean everyones version of good guy is different! I just have never been told i was an ass or a jerk and anything, i have bunches of friends who love me, and never had an enemy so if u dont ask you dont know right?

Rip,

I just saw your profile and realized you were new. We get alot of "I'm such a nice guy" threads around here. I recommend jumping around the forums, reading the posts and getting your feet wet.

Most of the regular posters have a great, sarcastic sense of humor but are a wee bit tired of Nice Guy/Nice Girl threads. Also, be very careful not to say All Men or All women, generalization sucks.

Hope this helps.

And my question would be why do nice girls seem to attract mostly bad guys? I've had my share of bad guys but they don't last once I see through the facade...

Usually girls that are like that had problems long before they even started with the bad guys. You can't fix a broken person that doesn't see the damage themselves.
There are good girls out there and yours will come along when you least expect it.

thanks for the advice i apologize for the topic, and not looking around more, i just saw chit chat and didn't realize it was such a sensitive subject, just thought i could get some serious answers, but i will definatly take your advice and try to leave this one alone.

Quit going after the rebound girls.

thank you urg04es, i really think one day she will, just like for you all, i hope everyones dream person comes along to them!

thank you urg04es, i really think one day she will, just like for you all, i hope everyones dream person comes along to them!

good advice mark, but how do you know if they are rebound girls, when they tell you they broke up 6 or more months ago, how can u tell they are not ready for someone new

It's not a sensitive topic, it is actually kind of like pop music...similar to how they don't stop playing the crap on the radio...this topic never really seems to stop appearing.

bad boys are more fun

makes sense i know im not the only person with the same problem... so i should have looked around for others who have asked a similar question, but u always hope that if you throw your story out there and some of your experiences, your story might not only help someone else, but also get a more definitive answer!

reminded me of the song "Build me up buttercup."

Classic song. Think it came out in the 60's...apparently still applicable:)

Love was only easy for the troglodytes.



"WHAM....Bam!!" and drag her back to the cave

You seem like a very nice and reasonable young guy. My advice.........quit trying to help the girls. You can't fix their problems for them. Be confident, be you and communicate what you want out of a partner. Kindness is fine, but if you show the slightest bit of doormat mentality, the girls will either use you or go running. Don't be afraid to walk away from someone. There are plenty more fish in the sea. You deserve a good one!

Thanks so much heather, i will take that advice to heart, and i do suppose i am a little scared to walk away, sometimes you feel its worth it to help them out, and someday you might make a difference and actually help someone and live happily ever after, i have always heard anything worth having is worth fighting for, i guess i just have to look a little harder and make sure they are worth having. Heartache is always inevitable and i will never lay down and quit trying. Just the more you try it seems the more distant you can end up becoming and eventually the one you thought wasn't worth letting in, becomes the one that was and got away....