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| Topic: Howe much do they really matter | |
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my attitude is if you can't be bothered to make the effort to get to know me, then you don't deserve to know me. I flip that around the other way -- if they can't be bothered to put a little bit of information about themselves in their profiles, and if they can't be bothered to ensure that it's at least readable and marginally interesting, then they're telling me that it isn't worth my time and effort to try to get to know them. This is a written medium -- profiles, forums, e-mails, etc. -- and, to me, that means, if they cared at all, they'd take the time to write something that conveys a sense of who they are, make it clear and legible and worth reading. The reality of it, though, is that it rarely turns out that way -- most profiles are about as interesting and informative as the "Inspected By No. 24" slip of paper I found in my shoes. so THATS why lexy won't give my 40 daily emails the time of day. conflict of values...  that's ok...
i agree this is a written medium, but half the stuff people write in profiles is bs anyway. a more accurate representaion of who a person is on these kinds of sites, without bothering with emails, would be their forum posts. maybe your unrealistic expectations are what run you into trouble lexy 
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I personally like to know if they "don't need drama" hate smokers, must live with in 50 miles, into motorcycles, want more kids, before I contact them. I have been fooled before. I recently had a conversation with a guy (only lived 8 mi from me, whoo ho) who said he was surprised I answered his email. He said that when he would say he rode a motorcycle, most would never respond.. Just happens I love motorcycles, we had coffee but I didn't think he could keep up with me although he was a few yrs younger.. we became friends and he did offer to ride with me as soon as I get my bike. You just never know... |
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So Lex, tell us more about this peice of paper in your shoe, it sounds really interesting... It's square, and it says "Inspected By No. 24." It was folded. I found it way up in the toe of the right shoe. The paper is white, and the text is black. Looks to be a standard font. No pictures, no signatures, no instructions.  Hmmm, and just who do you think this #24 is? and what were they doing inspecting your shoes? One can only assume it is some sort of foot fetish. 
lol, in keeping with the topic though, i think it is important to at least list your interests. (that is if you are actually here to date). I am only here to be annoying, so it doesn't really matter... |
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I personally like to know if they "don't need drama" hate smokers, must live with in 50 miles, into motorcycles, want more kids, before I contact them. I have been fooled before. |
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 Got tired of reading "I like the outdoors",and "I'm sensative yet independent"
 
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so THATS why lexy won't give my 40 daily emails the time of day. conflict of values... that's ok...
Well, that, and the fact I'm just an insufferable snob. i agree this is a written medium, but half the stuff people write in profiles is bs anyway. But there's a difference -- I don't KNOW what's BS and what isn't, in a profile, but I DO know bad/lazy writing when I see it. a more accurate representaion of who a person is on these kinds of sites, without bothering with emails, would be their forum posts. Agreed, but not everyone posts in the forums, eliminating that particular option for many. Given a scenario where I have both a profile AND forum posts, the posts will always take precedence re: determining anything about the person. maybe your unrealistic expectations are what run you into trouble lexy
Well, that and the fact that I really really really don't want to be turned into a goat. |
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Hmmm, and just who do you think this #24 is? and what were they doing inspecting your shoes? One can only assume it is some sort of foot fetish.
I was hoping maybe No. 24 was Willie Mays, but I kind of doubt it. More likely Billy Mays, screaming about Oxi-Clean.... lol, in keeping with the topic though, i think it is important to at least list your interests. (that is if you are actually here to date). I am only here to be annoying, so it doesn't really matter... Exactly -- how are we supposed to know whether or not we want to pursue getting to know someone, when they refuse to say anything about themselves? I find the "Interests" in a profile -- assuming they list any -- to be of tremendous use when evaluating MM prospects -- if they list "drinking" or "partying" or anything along those lines, I know it's time to move on to the next profile.... |
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I read profiles. In fact, if someone contacts me and doesn't have a profile, that's as far as he gets with me. The profile is your opportunity to make a good first impression. If you don't care enough to make a well written profile, you miss your opportunity to share yourself with us.
I read profiles to see if we have anything in common, something we can talk about. Very rarely do I find a well-written, interesting profile. So I skip over most of the guys in my area. I did "meet" a guy the other day on another site whose profile is very well written and entertaining and quite lengthy, like mine. It was a rather refreshing read and we are exchanging emails. We have much in common and perhaps we'll meet sometime in the future. Honestly, if you're not going to take the time to write a profile, how do you expect to get noticed? Most people don't venture to these forums, and those who do may be no where near you. |
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For me, its all about the forums...im guilty of never checking ppl out, unless they have caught my interest via the forums. and thats just cos im nosy! Same here. I have checked out a few that viewed me but for the most part it is the forums that peak my interest. |
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