And I don't know what to do about it... I have already told him how I feel about him, and he said "no".. But I stil like him even though he said no.. I just can't seem to make these feelings deminish, they just keep getting larger and more confusing the more I hang out with him.. He said that he didn't want to go out with me because he doesn't see me in that way, and even if he did he wouldn't be able to date inside the group... (of friends) Ho do I forget about him?

no means no for men just like it does for women

Maybe take a break from your friend(s) for awhile.

I can't seem to do that. I have been trying, really. I have most of my classes with them so they are pretty hard to avoid.

Maybe you have to break the bonds with him for a lil while. It may hurt and it won't be easy,but it is better than going through torture.

sadly, it seems hanging out with him is becomming toxic for you... meaning, it will simply cause you emotional pain (since he is not reciprocating)... perhaps hang out with him less...(or not at all)...

you can only have a 'relationship' when someone reciprocates, if they do not, you are just causing your own emotional pain...

respect him enough not to 'pull' on his emotions... he sounds like he deserves your respect of his feelings, since it seems he told you the truth about how he feels. Take that as a positive, many are not so honest...

aaaaaaaaaarrrrrrrrgggggggggggghhhhhhhhhh u'll turn him gay if your not carefull!!

unfortunately, i believe that you can only remain friends if neither of you is attracted to the other. if one of you develops and attraction, that person is likely to start feeling resentful when the attraction and feelings aren't returned.
it's probably best if you distance yourself from your friend and try to find yourself someone else.
sorry.


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Why are they getting larger? He already told you no. You are fantasizing about the "what if". Stop it.

You control your thoughts. Be realistic. You are going to lose a friend, and fast, if you don't grow up.

There are no truer words than this... for your own sake... listen

God.... Wouldn't it be nice if you could just turn love on and off light a f**king light switch!

Look... You feel the way you feel and that is that. You made that clear to him and he declined. It will hurt, and yes I have been there, but you have to suck it up and be friends.

If he is still your best friend after you told him, that is a good thing. A lot of guys and gals would feel uncomfortable at this point.

There isn't anything you can do, but continue going and let him see that you are still his friend despite the feelings.

It's a painful place to be in.

You are an obsession, I cannot sleep
I am a possession unopened at your feet
There is no balance, no equality
Be still I will not accept defeat

I will have you, yes I will have you
I will find a way and I will have you
Like a butterfly, a wild butterfly
I will collect you and capture you

You are an obsession, you're my obsession
Who do you want me to be to make you sleep with me
(x2)

I feed you, I drink you by day and by night
I need you, I need you by sun or candlelight
You protest, you want to leave
You say there's no alternative

Your face appears again, I see the beauty there
But I see danger, stranger beware
A circumstance in your naked dreams
Your affection is not what it seems

You are an obsession, you're my obsession
Who do you want me to be to make you sleep with me
(x2)

My fantasy has turned to madness
All my goodness has turned to badness
My need to possess you has consumed my soul
My life is trembling, I have no control

I will have you, yes I will have you
I will find a way and I will have you
Like a butterfly, a wild butterfly
I will collect you and capture you

You are an obsession, you're my obsession
Who do you want me to be to make you sleep with me
(x2 an fade)

Yeah, that would be so awesome if it was actually easy!

Agreed... I am a very focused person. I put everything into whatever I try for.

This is kicking my butt... lol

Powerpet... Just don't get too freaked out or emotional, what is going to happen is going to happen. Please don't get obsessed. It will kill not only your friendship, but your heart.

I'm not obsessed. I swear on the bible.

lol, sometimes I think he is gay... I'm just iten or him to comeout on us.

I prob like him so much because all my life noone really ever gave me complements, and all the sudden, he gives me thim all the time. I guess I really liked it, so I started to like him and being around him..

Yeah.. Thats prob where it started.

Tell him this. Sure you don't wanna. But if that's what's giving you an increased desire for him, then for him to continue doing this is nothing but teasing and torture for you. If you tell him that he's doing nothing but teasing you, and he continues to do so, it's kinda disrespectful. If he's unaware that he's just teasing you, then the blame for the eventual collapse of your friendship will be on your hands. And yada yada yada