this works for both male and female and all sexual orientations too. I will use the woman to man perspective because it is closest to me.

If you are fighting for/to keep you partner, you are in a dysfunctional relationship.

Reasons being first and foremost, your partner should not give you reason to doubt them, intentionally or non intentionally. If they do they are mentally playing games with you and you will never win.

I guess this one might should :) maybe tie for first, personally you have esteem issues if you feel the need to manipulate, coerce, play the game, etc... to keep your man. If you find yourself for instance cutting down women in front of him or feeling threatened when a woman you believe is "better" than you catches his eye, your self esteem is in the toilet.

Just thought I would share it since I was thinking of it after watching this same scenerio happen.

hey if they dont wanna be there

why bother

hope the door don't hit them on the way out

If it ain't given freely...I sure as hell won't fight for it...

I've always taken the viewpoint that one can never "own" or "belong to" another person. No one can steal someone from another person. You're either in a partnership or you're not. If they choose to go elsewhere, it's their loss. Yes, it hurts, but I try to keep in mind that they did me a favor, freeing me up to find someone who actually WANTS to be with me.

this seems appropriate an excerpt from TD Jakes

There are people who can walk away from you. And hear me when I tell you this! When people can walk away from you: let them walk.

I don't want you to try to talk another person into staying with you, loving you, calling you, caring about you, coming to see you, staying attached to you. I mean hang up the phone. When people can walk away from you let them walk. Your destiny is never tied to anybody that left.

Love this!!!

Thank you OP for bringing this up. Fabulous lil' reminder.

-some men are not worth fighting for..no reward system from them when it comes to love.

Can't love someone else if you don't love yourself. True fact (:

If I have to fight for someone's love then I dont want them. I walk away. I dont play games. Funny thing is.....when I walk away, thats when they come running!!!

thank you for writing this...

I'll fight if only just for fun until I get bored, escape and look for a real relationship