I know that I look like a big hairy man, and I play like I know what I am talking about. I don't. My heart literally aches right now so save your f*cking jokes ...

I think I am in love with someone. She is perfect for me. I think she is beautiful and kind and has everything I want in a someone.

Lately ... 2 other women have started to try very hard to get to know me and I find myself entertaining the thought of being with them.

I have told her how I feel and so far she has not told me, but she calls me and asks me to do things with her. I do everything I can to be with her... I get glimers from her, but then she seems to be trying to not follow them.

I am not a man that craves just sex. I never have been. I want someone and I feel I am betraying my feelings and my heart by entertaining the thought of others.

I know that some of you are thinking... just go for it dude... get some... but I find myself sitting in tears of frustration, because that is not me and never will be.

I've never felt as helpless as I feel right now. I literally have no idea how to proceed.

I just want something to be easy for once.

I wish I could say something that would make you feel better. I am sending positive thoughts your way.....

If you really love her you wouldnt be entertaining these thoughts of other women.

you cant chase something thats not there if your getting glimmers but she refuses to act youve got to wonder if your being played, theres too much confusion in relationships due to lack of communication wear you heart on your sleeve sit down and talk it out the if your really going nowhere you dont have to feel guilty about the tought of entertaining someone who actually likes you. chin up old boy

sorry, double post.


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there's no point in putting your life on hold waiting for someone else to make a decision. talk to the other women and see if there's chemistry there with one of them. it is better to have to choose later than to wait for one and in the end possibly wind up with no one.
the old saying "one in the hand is worth two in the bush" comes to mind. if you've got women that are interested in getting to know you you should give them the opportunity to. why should you pass on them while waiting for the other to come around.
on another note, a little competition may make the other one step up. show her that you have enough self worth and enough going on that you won't just sit around and wait for her. unless she's totally dense, she'll get the hint.
and as far as easy goes, remember that anything worth having is worth working for. nothing worthwhile comes at minimal cost.


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I agree

And i agree with Beauty

I agree with beauty and romeo!!!

and i agree with drew.


oops, that's me. i mean i agree with whoever's right.

i'm just being agree-able. i'm a follower.


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I understand where you are coming from. Dating seems so complicated anymore. If you have told this woman who you deeply care for how you feel, why hasn't she told you how she feels? It sounds like a conversation that hasn't been finished yet. I would talk to her more about it so you know where she is coming from and so that you don't possibly waste time and miss out on a good thing with someone else. Good luck!

welcome melanie


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Meet as many women as u can!

If it's love it'll be there through every temptation

Why should love stop any man from just meeting other women?

Wow, good answer

i sounds like your quandry is not so much what to do about the 2 other women, but thinking you are "in love" and it is not being reciprocated. not to be rude, but don't be a door mat -- if you've put your feelings out there and this woman hasn't even had the courtesy to respond, then you really need to decide if that's something you want to invest more time in and from an outsiders perspective, it's time to boogie. you need to deal with that before moving on to anyone else, you will just carry those unresolved feelings into another possible relationship and that's not good. good luck to you

very much agree

IF you LOVE someone.. you wouldn't WANT to meet any other woman (man).

There will always be temptation in life..it's how you control it! Perhaps she's being cautious because she doesn't believe he truly loves her. I mean, look, he's still talking and contemplating on meeting other women..geeeeeeeeeeez.

sounds to me that you are hurt by this gal<that you think you love> get your answers or get out of the relationship. perhaps you have the fear that you need to move on?

Its not easy, its never easy, who the F*ck said this was ever gonna be easy. I told a woman who keeps coming in and out of my life, that for some reason, i feel a great deal of love for her, but my days of being the rusty tin soldier standing out in the rain are over.