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Topic: keep complaints to yourself or not
MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Sat 04/04/09 04:14 PM
When having a disagreement with your SO do you usually complain to your friends and family about your SO? Do you?

misstina2 Joined Sat 11/01/08 Posts: 13508	Sat 04/04/09 04:19 PM
When having a disagreement with your SO do you usually complain to your friends and family about your SO? Do you? no cuz one of them says anything about my SO then I'd have to defend him so theres no point another reason why I like a friend based relationship is that a person is more likely to be able to talk it out based on that foundation

s1owhand Joined Fri 05/18/07 Posts: 29437	Sat 04/04/09 04:53 PM
whining about your so to your friends/family reflects badly on the whiner at least as much as the whinee...

s1owhand Joined Fri 05/18/07 Posts: 29437	Sat 04/04/09 04:55 PM
A therapist would need therapy after talking to me Could be why mine is leaving to work elsewhere I drove my theraptist to find work elsewhere. Yay Me!!! By the way, anyone know the name of a good therapist????? longhairbiker will take care of it right here on the forums if you ask nicely and he only charges $55/hr!

SitkaRains Joined Thu 10/09/08 Posts: 17228	Sat 04/04/09 04:57 PM
When having a disagreement with your SO do you usually complain to your friends and family about your SO? I will not discuss any disagreement with family and rarely with friends that is a private matter between him and I. Also when it is ironed out the friend or family member is still pissed off and well not good relations... I personally have listened to to many people cry on my shoulder about their loves and then 2 hours later all is lovey dovey...

misstina2 Joined Sat 11/01/08 Posts: 13508	Sat 04/04/09 05:03 PM
When having a disagreement with your SO do you usually complain to your friends and family about your SO? I will not discuss any disagreement with family and rarely with friends that is a private matter between him and I. Also when it is ironed out the friend or family member is still pissed off and well not good relations... I personally have listened to to many people cry on my shoulder about their loves and then 2 hours later all is lovey dovey... I agree completely

MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Sat 04/04/09 05:16 PM
When having a disagreement with your SO do you usually complain to your friends and family about your SO? I will not discuss any disagreement with family and rarely with friends that is a private matter between him and I. Also when it is ironed out the friend or family member is still pissed off and well not good relations... I personally have listened to to many people cry on my shoulder about their loves and then 2 hours later all is lovey dovey... I agree completely me2

evilbabe277 Joined Thu 02/19/09 Posts: 2751	Sat 04/04/09 08:25 PM
Nope I would rather talk to my SO regarding our problems no need to bring someone else in because they are always going to take your side and if you talked to his family or friends they would take his side its a no win situation with friends and family best to work it out together

trsmith22 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 5959	Sat 04/04/09 08:27 PM
When having a disagreement with your SO do you usually complain to your friends and family about your SO? I don't complain but I do comment. (as long as it isn't something big) Don't want/need advice. Just need to vent at times. But if it is really personal, then I just talk to the SO and hope we can work things out Not that there is one, just past experiences.

seahawks Joined Thu 01/11/07 Posts: 16735	Sat 04/04/09 08:27 PM
Nope I would rather talk to my SO regarding our problems no need to bring someone else in because they are always going to take your side and if you talked to his family or friends they would take his side its a no win situation with friends and family best to work it out together ok lets work it out.!!lay back as i rub you down .!!

Redshirt Joined Tue 02/26/08 Posts: 2109	Sat 04/04/09 08:54 PM
When having a disagreement with your SO do you usually complain to your friends and family about your SO? No...those disagreements are between us. Why on earth would you want to bring someone else in on it. It is a relationship not a democracy for heaven's sake.

Smallblock_Ford2008 Joined Sun 04/27/08 Posts: 149	Sat 04/04/09 09:40 PM
I personally have listened to to many people cry on my shoulder about their loves and then 2 hours later all is lovey dovey... Same here with my cousin and for some reason the girl he's talkin to will start complainin to me. But yeah I agree...what goes on in our personal lives stays between us.

imsingle951 Joined Mon 12/01/08 Posts: 1984	Sun 04/05/09 03:22 AM
I generally keep that stuff to myself, I feel my relationship is a private matter. I wish more people did this. I feel the same way