I told my daughter that he father was not coming back for now. I told her that Sometimes mommies have to make choices that are not very easy, but because it's our jobs to protect our children- we have to. I told her that her daddy and I will always love her- and nothihng was her fault- that we can not play nice and so it's better that he find a job and move into his own home. I reassured her that he was safe and where he was. Those words were the hardest thing I had to do. Watching her face, seeing her heart break- was unbearable. I cry thinking about it. But she seemed to take it in stride. As the days go by- it's starting to sink in for her and she crys easily.. doesn't want me to go to work. Sigh. I hope I can get her through this with little to no damage.

Didn't we discuss the whole telling her daddy loves her thing? You simply can't speak for anyone else.

It is so hard on the kids. It really all depends on her age as to what she can understand and what is appropriate to talk to her about. Also counseling. Either private or church or school is always helpful. Good luck to you both. Love

well when she asked if he loves her- Of Course I told her he did- because I KNOW he does...

And if he flakes out and she THINKS he doesn't???? You going to start making excuses for him too?

You just simply cannot speak for amyone else.

Mommy, does daddy love me?

Oh honey, mommy loves you so much. You want to call daddy and talk to him?

Mommy, why don't I see daddy anymore?

Oh honey, mommy is so lucky she gets to see you every day. I'm sorry if you are sad. Do you want to write daddy a letter or draw him a picture?


Seriously.... you can't, can't, can't speak for anyone else. Regardless of what you think you know. With kids, it's actions and behaviors. And once your little girl thinks you've lied to her, who can she trust then?

Well I think it's great you feel so strongly on your veiws. I however think that my child is going through enough without me doing the two-step with her. Pretending I did not hear her question would just confuse her.. and knowing my daughter that would not make her stop asking. Besides, I know that he LOVES her so I see no reason to not enforce what she NEEDS to know. Our marriage falling apart has nothing to do with the children. So yes- when she asks "Does daddy love me?" I WILL say yes because I have no doubt. When she asks "When will I see him" I will tell her the truth and tell her that I just dont know.
Thank you for thoughts though...

I think you handled this good. she will go through a grieving period even as a child. I don't know what happened in the relationship but you handled it in a good way. IMO

Thank U.... I so apprectiate that.

face it....it's not easy being a parent. we do our best for our children. sometimes we make mistakes in life. but we want our children to be safe and happy. they won't always be, but they know we love them is important