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Topic: Sick of the
durtydduck Joined Wed 11/19/08 Posts: 1972	Fri 03/20/09 07:16 PM
I would much rather read a profile like Lex's (sorry haven't read yours) that spells it right out there than have one that is so darn generic that who the heck knows what that person is looking for. I am one that isn't going to get offended by someone's preferences, dislikes, or likes. Like you said you are expecting most people to be honest out here. If you have it on your profile what you want so be it. Since way back when I had two first meets of people that weren't who they say they are I insist on webcam sessions first. So at least I know who,I am going to meet. If that isn't the person that walks through door I am out the back one. I don't understand though why you feel like you have to validate who and what you are looking for or what your opinion is; We all have them and we all are entitled to them. Sitka, thank you for the endorsement! I can understand Duck's frustration, though -- there have been days when I just haven't felt like explaining my preferences for the 1932nd time. OK, I shouldn't have to explain them at all -- nobody should. But a lot of people have this attitude, "If you don't believe the same things I believe, then you're a bad person," and you end up getting vilified simply because something appeals to you that they don't understand, or you just don't want certain issues/conditions in your life that someone else considers "mandatory." It's all about the idea of people trying to impose their own personal values and beliefs on others. I personally don't want to have anything to do with those people. But there are enough of them out there that sometimes you just can't avoid them. See Lex you get it! Why don't they? As do a lot of other people do get it. Its those few you just are relentless in making your time here in Mingles less then a pleasing one.

yellowrose10 Joined Tue 12/11/07 Posts: 52804	Fri 03/20/09 07:18 PM
alot of people do get it....but others want to argue is all

ladyliz1417 Joined Wed 12/27/06 Posts: 51463	Fri 03/20/09 07:21 PM
Having a bad night and tired of explaining myself over and over to the same people. Those that just don't get it..We are allowed to have a preference.. yep, have had some issues on some sites b/c of the preferences Istated in my profile. But hey! We like what we like!

durtydduck Joined Wed 11/19/08 Posts: 1972	Fri 03/20/09 07:25 PM
Sitka, I have gone by BMI and trust me my personal and even my Dr's opinion is that it reflects that people should be thinner then a "healthy ' weight. as an example my BMI to be just with in the limits I would have to weigh no more then 159 lbs. I would be a stick. And have been that weight. But I couldn't function as well as when I am about 165-168. I feel better more healthy then. There is a site that takes in to account not only BMI but also body fat. It has a more realistic outcome. BUT it's not just about the weight for me. Just like everyone else I have other things that are important to me. Honesty and communication are extremely high on my list. Hence the weight issue. People lie it's that simple. Then they gripe at me why I have these "preferences".. oh well. And if I am to vocal for some?

MsTeddyBear2u Joined Fri 04/06/07 Posts: 22031	Fri 03/20/09 08:02 PM
Well at least they read your profile! I have had a lot of them that don't read my profile, and when they find out somethings about me- they are like WTF. I then say well this issue was stated in my profile if you would of just read it. I have been up front and honest in my profile, and exspect others to be honest also. Yep... We have preferences- all of us do, and we have that right to have them. I have also had someone write me, and tell me I should NOT be on this site. Just ignore the jerks, its all we can do. I refuse to keep explaining myself to anyone. If they don't get it the first time- I am outta there.

TxsGal3333 Joined Tue 09/05/06 Posts: 76469	Fri 03/20/09 10:03 PM
You know everyone has their right to what they prefer within another person that in fact they want as a partner. No doubt about that at all and I do respect those that do not want to be with those that are considered overweight, full figured, voluptuous or how ever others may see them. What I have a problem with is the way some word it. There are many ways one can say that they are not interested in those that are overweight. Just because they do not appeal to them there is no reason to be sarcastic about it and make a point of putting those down that are overweight. My self if I read a profile and they state they are looking for someone that is petite, slender, athletic, under a certain weight or not overweight. I gladly pass the profile up and it does not bother me that they have stated that. For we all have our preference that we look for within another person. To me it is all within the way they word it.