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Topic: Can you forgive?
brokenwings30's photo
Sat 03/14/09 05:45 PM
nope,once a cheater always a cheater,its either in you to cheat or its not JMO

lovethelord's photo
Sat 03/14/09 05:45 PM

If someone cheated on you would you take them back or would you call it quits for good?


I can tell you that in this case I would forgive I have before and maybe I am just too nice or naive I don't know which one but I have done it more then once. Generally I give people 3 strikes then there out. Unless its something horrible...

Just say see ya! 1 out in my book.......love

Silvercloud08's photo
Sat 03/14/09 05:47 PM

Not all people who cheat are the typical "cheaters". Sometimes cheating can be the result of a relationship in a bad condition, and can be a symptom, not the reason for the demise of a relationship.

Although I likely would NOT put up with a cheater, it would be because of knowing ALL THE FREAKIN' EFFORT I had put into the union, having talked, tried to elicit communication, read, refer to experts and friends.... If a person cheated on me and I had done everything in my power to grow the relationship, he'd be gone.

Now, I see all the time about this "once a cheater, always...." crap. And one strike and he/she's out. So, what did my parents have that YOU ALL don't? Were they nuts or stupid to reconcile things? They had love, family, commitment, and they CHOSE to get to the root of the issues that led them BOTH to cheat on each other at one point in their relationship. It wasn't easy; sometimes downright horrid to deal with each other for quite some time. Did they ever do it to each other again? Nope.

Some folks can handle this breach; some cannot. Some CHOOSE to handle it; some choose not. Big difference between those who have no character or backbone and those who do a stupid action once and regret it.

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Sat 03/14/09 05:49 PM
i doubt i will

Meg8771's photo
Sat 03/14/09 05:56 PM

i doubt i will


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lfmsm143's photo
Sat 03/14/09 05:57 PM
Edited by lfmsm143 on Sat 03/14/09 06:00 PM
Once a cheater always a cheater. SUCKS but it is true. Lived with one for 15 years:( I hung in there because of the kids and he was a repeat offender. I did forgive him and we have a great relationship but now he is remarried and probably cheating on her too... Adrenaline rush to see if they can get away with it:)

Nyteflame's photo
Sat 03/14/09 06:05 PM

Three strikes unless it's something horrible? So a guy can cheat on you three times before you dump him but you draw the line at what? Murder? Beating you to a pulp?


If they slept with someone else, as far as I am concerned, it's almost as bad s attempted murder. You don't know what the person he was with has, or who she was with before him. He doesn't know that she was honest with him. For all you know, he's coming home to your bed and giving you HIV, or some other horrible disease.

stacb's photo
Sat 03/14/09 06:19 PM
Cheating is Cheating.... No Excuse. If a relationship is bad end it, normally why people cheat to begin with. It's total disrespect to cheat on someone and once a person cheats and is forgiven... lol hey its just to easy after that, the oh they will forgive me is always there..

longislandangel's photo
Sat 03/14/09 06:38 PM
No! No cheating! If you love someone you love them with your whole heart. Not just part of it...

evilbabe277's photo
Sat 03/14/09 06:41 PM
No I could never take someone back that cheated on me...

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