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this is a huge red flag!

well you wanted advice.

Get rid of your co-dependency issues!

how do i do that, i have always had the need to be with someone , i just dont know how to be by myself, i dont enjoy it very much at all , and who would?

there are no gaurantee's in life, and nothing is supposed to be there to care, nor to endorse or spare, and the sooner one accept this, the sooner all human emotional weather become fair...

look man...

if you don't know how to be yourself, it is because you don't know WHO you are yet, and why you are seperated.

no matter what she did, or what happened, YOU HAVE BEEN BLAMING HER, for every last shortcoming in yourself, or you would know who you are, and be able to be yourself.

no women can, nor will even know HOW to provide this, and most, time "alone" will carry you thru this FASTER, as the need, is to feed, the weakness, that lie buried within the human nature...

no man can nor will make a women happy, unless he is already happy, or you will try to please her, just to get back what you want, to "win" her, and this will not please her, and only match you to what is weak itself, and two weaks, make more weak, and last but for a few days time...

find what you want, if you were going to die tomarrow, and then you have a start up the mountian, of finding yourself...

peace my friend, and good speed fellow sailor.

thanks man that was great.

for you to say this, after hearing that, show a TRUE MAN OF VALOR, that has true grit and heart, who will climb fast into the skies, and soon find what was missing...

the only deciet from a man, is trying to please a women, as if a man does what he wants, and THEN, it please a women, it shall NEVER FAIL.

peace courageous brother.

My x husband was separated when I met him. He gave me no reason in the world to believe he'd ever go back to his wife, and he didn't.
Now, I wish he hadof, Ahahahah.

Sorry.

So, my point is you might not be giving off the right kind of vibe to your prospective dates, convincing them that you're done with the x, and it's all just a matter of the paper work.

Do you talk about the x to them. Save the anger and frusteration towards the x for your buddies. Unfortunately, if you do still have anger and frusteration towards the x, women will pick up on it and they will not want to get involved.

You might need to give yourself a bit more time based on the response your getting from your prospects.

They may be trying to tell you something.

Good luck to you all the same.

thank you for the advise i may do just that