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....since the list is not mine. It is from an online list (at AskMen.com, if I recall rightly), although I did some editing. (Yah...I cheated.) 
Was this really posted at that site? Usually their advice is valid and makes sense. This bit was just sense-less to me, however. Nothing personal intended. |
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Finally unsuspended.....whew. Now. Are you sure you don't want to retract at least some your OP? Retract? That would be dishonest....since the list is not mine. It is from an online list (at AskMen.com, if I recall rightly), although I did some editing. (Yah...I cheated.)
Well see now....I thought this was something you personally wrote. So you're telling me I got all mad at you for nothing? 
Not for nothing. 
I could have told you where it came from. I invited responses to a touchy topic, and I got your honest response. 
You would have gotten my honest response, regardless of who wrote it.
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Edited by
Dragoness
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The top 10 reasons Not to Tell that You Cheated.
1. Because relationships cannot go backward…even if there is a “forgive” there will never be a “forget” and she will always be burdened with doubt about you. But if the reason for your cheating is discovered then maybe the relatioship can move forward from there. If you are just going to cheat then be fair and never be in a relatioship. 2. Because she doesn’t want to know…regardless of popular theory, because if she knows all about you then her feelings for you change. You’re supposed to help make her dreams come true, even if just to let her live her dream. If she believes that you’re a better man than you know you are, start living up to her belief in you. This is a bunch of hogwash! 3. Because it is selfish…and unburdening your nasty soul and make her suffer, too, since you are not man enough to suffer in silence. This is an excuse using her as the excuse. 4. Because you care about her…and your only chance to prove it is to change the future, and to bury the past in silence. Another excuse using her. 5. Because she will leave…and take everything that you love about life away with her. Every action has a consequence. 6. Because she will get revenge…and she can ruin the rest of your life…because it is her responsibility to ensure that nobody ever risks trusting you again. Again every action has a consequence, deal with it. 7. Because she already beat you to it…and was better at it, and made certain that if you mess with her, you will lose horribly. If you believe that of your mate you have no business with them. 8. Because it gives her a card…which will trump anything. You will never win another dispute with her, unless she decides to let you win…for now. There is only losers in this situation, no winners. 9. Because the other woman didn’t mean anything…and you knew it when it happened. Doesn't make anything different. 10. She won’t find out…and doesn’t need to be hurt by you opening your mouth. Everything comes to light at some time. |
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Scoundrel, good luck finding a date posting crap like that.
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Edited by
JasmineInglewood
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Mon 03/09/09 08:00 PM
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The top 10 reasons Not to Tell that You Cheated. 
1. Because relationships cannot go backward…even if there is a “forgive” there will never be a “forget” and she will always be burdened with doubt about you. 
2. Because she doesn’t want to know…regardless of popular theory, because if she knows all about you then her feelings for you change. You’re supposed to help make her dreams come true, even if just to let her live her dream. If she believes that you’re a better man than you know you are, start living up to her belief in you. 
3. Because it is selfish…and unburdening your nasty soul and make her suffer, too, since you are not man enough to suffer in silence. 
4. Because you care about her…and your only chance to prove it is to change the future, and to bury the past in silence.
5. Because she will leave…and take everything that you love about life away with her. 
6. Because she will get revenge…and she can ruin the rest of your life…because it is her responsibility to ensure that nobody ever risks trusting you again.  
7. Because she already beat you to it…and was better at it, and made certain that if you mess with her, you will lose horribly. 
8. Because it gives her a card…which will trump anything. You will never win another dispute with her, unless she decides to let you win…for now. 
9. Because the other woman didn’t mean anything…and you knew it when it happened.
10. She won’t find out…and doesn’t need to be hurt by you opening your mouth. 
sooo.... only men cheat? |
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just don't do it to begin with, break up and then have your fun.
There will never be a list or circumstance or anything else that ever makes cheating right or acceptable, ever. |
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....since the list is not mine. It is from an online list (at AskMen.com, if I recall rightly), although I did some editing. (Yah...I cheated.)
Was this really posted at that site? Usually their advice is valid and makes sense. This bit was just sense-less to me, however. Nothing personal intended. Not taken personally. Yes, the link is http://www.askmen.com/top_10/dating/top-10-reasons-not-to-tell-her-youve-cheated.html I segued to this topic from Top 10 Things You [a man] Should Never Tell A Woman, while looking for new topics that could generate some responses. |
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Scoundrel, good luck finding a date posting crap like that. Thank you. Sincere goodwill--even cloaked in sarcasm--is appreciated.
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Not for nothing.
I could have told you where it came from. I invited responses to a touchy topic, and I got your honest response.
You would have gotten my honest response, regardless of who wrote it.
That directness is a trait which I value, and look forward to enjoying. 
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so basicly its only men that cheat? Nope. It's men that pay the price, literally and judicially, the most often. We know that the responsibility for a woman cheating is often put under the heading of "...husband isn't sating my needs.." and the truth or falsity of the matter doesn't carry much weight in the legal system. She can cheat, and still rake in the house, kids, alimony, child support, etc. Not always, but often enough that it is a fact of life. That's why I wondered if there is a "How To" manual for women who cheat, since the dynamics are quite different than for men. |
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In your case, with all the goods and also the social/life contacts, and the milieus in which you move (laterally and vertically), I can see certain risks for you that don't apply to me. Good luck with all that.
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The top 10 reasons Not to Tell that You Cheated. 1. Because relationships cannot go backward…even if there is a “forgive” there will never be a “forget” and she will always be burdened with doubt about you. But if the reason for your cheating is discovered then maybe the relatioship can move forward from there. If you are just going to cheat then be fair and never be in a relatioship. 2. Because she doesn’t want to know…regardless of popular theory, because if she knows all about you then her feelings for you change. You’re supposed to help make her dreams come true, even if just to let her live her dream. If she believes that you’re a better man than you know you are, start living up to her belief in you. This is a bunch of hogwash! 3. Because it is selfish…and unburdening your nasty soul and make her suffer, too, since you are not man enough to suffer in silence. This is an excuse using her as the excuse. 4. Because you care about her…and your only chance to prove it is to change the future, and to bury the past in silence. Another excuse using her. 5. Because she will leave…and take everything that you love about life away with her. Every action has a consequence. 6. Because she will get revenge…and she can ruin the rest of your life…because it is her responsibility to ensure that nobody ever risks trusting you again. Again every action has a consequence, deal with it. 7. Because she already beat you to it…and was better at it, and made certain that if you mess with her, you will lose horribly. If you believe that of your mate you have no business with them. 8. Because it gives her a card…which will trump anything. You will never win another dispute with her, unless she decides to let you win…for now. There is only losers in this situation, no winners. 9. Because the other woman didn’t mean anything…and you knew it when it happened. Doesn't make anything different. 10. She won’t find out…and doesn’t need to be hurt by you opening your mouth. Everything comes to light at some time. 
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Scoundrel, good luck finding a date posting crap like that. Thank you. Sincere goodwill--even cloaked in sarcasm--is appreciated.
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