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Topic: Not knowing what you want.....
therapy30 Joined Sat 11/15/08 Posts: 1799	Tue 03/03/09 10:39 AM
Do you know what you want? If so, are you happy? did You keep making decisions without knowing what you really wanted,which caused relationship problems. Then you get upset with the world because things didn’t work out the way you planned it. or you were always clear since the begining while making relationship decisions.

quiet_2008 Joined Sat 08/30/08 Posts: 11138	Tue 03/03/09 10:39 AM
yes

MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Tue 03/03/09 10:42 AM
Do you know what you want? If so, are you happy? did You keep making decisions without knowing what you really wanted,which caused relationship problems. Then you get upset with the world because things didn’t work out the way you planned it. or you were always clear since the begining while making relationship decisions. I dont know what I want or where my miserable excuse of a life is going.

Jungian101 Joined Fri 02/27/09 Posts: 517	Tue 03/03/09 10:44 AM
even if you kno what you want, it may not coincide with your partners needs or wants. And then there is always what you want and waht you want 10 minutes from now.

therapy30 Joined Sat 11/15/08 Posts: 1799	Tue 03/03/09 10:45 AM
Do you know what you want? If so, are you happy? did You keep making decisions without knowing what you really wanted,which caused relationship problems. Then you get upset with the world because things didn’t work out the way you planned it. or you were always clear since the begining while making relationship decisions. I dont know what I want or where my miserable excuse of a life is going. sometimes many of your wants are based in a fantasy world. It’s not until you get rid of them that you begin to realize where your life going

Jungian101 Joined Fri 02/27/09 Posts: 517	Tue 03/03/09 10:46 AM
even if you kno what you want, it may not coincide with your partners needs or wants. And then there is always what you want and waht you want 10 minutes from now. And if you are looking for happiness to be achieved through obtaining your wants, then you are way off base. Happiness is a state of being not obtaining.

quiet_2008 Joined Sat 08/30/08 Posts: 11138	Tue 03/03/09 10:46 AM
"Life is something that happens to you while you're busy making other plans" -John Lennon

darkowl1 Joined Sat 01/12/08 Posts: 13060	Tue 03/03/09 10:48 AM
"Life is something that happens to you while you're busy making other plans" -John Lennon that's really cool.

Jungian101 Joined Fri 02/27/09 Posts: 517	Tue 03/03/09 10:48 AM
even if you kno what you want, it may not coincide with your partners needs or wants. And then there is always what you want and waht you want 10 minutes from now. And if you are looking for happiness to be achieved through obtaining your wants, then you are way off base. Happiness is a state of being not obtaining. now you are on to some thing. Enlightenment is not some thing you learn or get, its letting go.

Jungian101 Joined Fri 02/27/09 Posts: 517	Tue 03/03/09 10:50 AM
John Lennon very cool!

lilith401 Joined Wed 10/31/07 Posts: 19593	Tue 03/03/09 10:50 AM
yes

durtydduck Joined Wed 11/19/08 Posts: 1972	Tue 03/03/09 10:51 AM
makes my brain hurt and what cells are left are threatening to boycott any more activity.. please send medical help asap!!!

TBRich Joined Fri 11/07/08 Posts: 8232	Tue 03/03/09 10:51 AM
Happiness is a warm gun, bang bang, shoot shoot.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Tue 03/03/09 10:52 AM
I know what I want and yes, I'm happy.

therapy30 Joined Sat 11/15/08 Posts: 1799	Tue 03/03/09 10:53 AM
even if you kno what you want, it may not coincide with your partners needs or wants. And then there is always what you want and waht you want 10 minutes from now. And if you are looking for happiness to be achieved through obtaining your wants, then you are way off base. Happiness is a state of being not obtaining. I feel one should always aspire to obtain. complacency is not good. Human must keep striving for a particular target and make a new one after achieving it. Being content is not synonmous to happiness for me.

prisoner Joined Tue 01/06/09 Posts: 5129	Tue 03/03/09 10:56 AM
Happiness is a warm gun, bang bang, shoot shoot. i need a fix 'cause i'm going down be seeing you

darkowl1 Joined Sat 01/12/08 Posts: 13060	Tue 03/03/09 10:58 AM
John Lennon very cool! yes he is........making you aware, while he relaxes you, and makes you comfortable. quite fascinating!

Jungian101 Joined Fri 02/27/09 Posts: 517	Tue 03/03/09 10:59 AM
Complacency is not a good thing, but know who you are is. A cat doesn't have to know how to be a cat, he just is. Why do you need to know how to be a person? and based on whos standards? whos right whos wrong? Happiness comes from inside not from materials or goals. Goals are good, wanting to learn and change is good. Zen proverb; before enlightenment chop wood, fetch water. After enlightenment chop wood fetch water.

therapy30 Joined Sat 11/15/08 Posts: 1799	Tue 03/03/09 11:02 AM
Complacency is not a good thing, but know who you are is. A cat doesn't have to know how to be a cat, he just is. Why do you need to know how to be a person? and based on whos standards? whos right whos wrong? Happiness comes from inside not from materials or goals. Goals are good, wanting to learn and change is good. Zen proverb; before enlightenment chop wood, fetch water. After enlightenment chop wood fetch water. agree. happiness comes from within. Nicherin proverb, "earthly desires are enlightnment" so even when you are happy within..aspire to obtain do no harm.

Jungian101 Joined Fri 02/27/09 Posts: 517	Tue 03/03/09 11:11 AM
sounds good, as the journey is the path and not the destination. even when Buddha sat at the bodhi tree he was happy. Zen proverb: be as water in the stream flowing over the rock, not trying to move the rock. Lao Tzu, I Ching; Be green and flexible = to life. Be hard dry and brittle = to death. The spoked wheel can not move without the hollow empty space in the center. A vessel without a void is of no use.