Over time, on here, and other sites, ive noticed that a large majority of ppl place way too much importance on having a relationship.

I know being single can be lonely, but its not the end of the world, its just 1 aspect of our life here.

Now some ppl may say, thats rich, coming from me, who is in a relationship, but it hasnt always been like that, and ive had many yrs of being single. When i was single, i tried to focus my energies on other things, like my kids, my home, my career, my hobbies, my friends etc....everyone knows that there is plenty to keep ya occupied when ur single....u also have the freedom to do as u please without answering to anyone.

Why do ppl view singledom as a desolate place to be?

I don't....but you already knew that.

Pink, sometimes just feeling lonely sucks. Just my two.

I don't think that way. I enjoy my own company. Sometimes I even have conversations with myself in the mirror... lol...jk..naw...Some people think that having a partner makes them whole...I think making ourselves whole is our job!!

Relationship...NO

Companionship & friendship.... for sure.

I have no problem not being in a relationship. Sometimes I don't want to exert the energy that's involved or am taking a break after being with someone. I always feel whole and complete. Besides, your friends are always there for you.

i view massachusetts as a desolate place to be be seeing you

i dont think being single sucks... until u go outside and see all the other couples walking around and being happy with eachother. and until u turn on the tv and see all the couples doing all the things they do. until u see the e harmony commercials... u get the idea.

People always want what they don't have.

I agree, we make ourselves whole, and should depend on ourselves to make us happy, not another person.

If we find ourselves single, its cos we r not in the right place, or time for it to be. Everything happens for a reason, and i think when ppl start getting desperate to be in a relationship, it can result in 2 things, 1. it will make u less ready and prob prolong the single experience, or 2. You could settle for the first person that comes along and rob urself of the right person.

I'm very careful and probably too picky for my own good (or success) and really don't mind being single. Far from co-dependent. But having someone to do things for..that you know will be there for you, to have conversations with. And, did I mention SEX?!? IMHO,. it's a lot better with a partner. Preferably, one that you know and love, and that knows and loves you. So you can get really freaky without runnin' em off. lol

Thats not always so...the grass isnt always greener, sometimes we can be happy and fulfilled by other areas of our life, i guess its more about looking at wat you do have, rather than wat u dont have.

That's why I'm a shut in and I keep the remote control with me at all times.

Seriously, I have no desperate need for a relationship. It comes down to the fact that some are afraid of being alone. Perhaps they do not like themselves and their own company enough to be at peace with the solitude?

I can accept that being single can get lonely, but not to the level where its all u can think about...and bypass other areas of ur life that could benefit from ur attn.

I don't see it that way either. I think it's our society that's attempted to ingrain that 'need' in us from a young age, but I have a very full life.

Ya .. it would be nice to have that too, but honestly I'm pretty busy all the time, and guys actually have trouble sharing me. Becuz the kids come first .. well, they either deal or 'there's the door' .. so life is full regardless.

couldn`t agree with you more,...

I enjoy being single. People find that strange especially since I am a "Nice Jewish Girl". I am always looking for friends, people to talk to, people to go to a museum or movie with.

I know I am complete just the way I am. I'm not looking for a relationship. I have found that more often than not a partner will find fault in me and try to change me. That's not what love is about.

Stand your ground and enjoy your life. I know it's tough but don't let the world make you feel bad for being single.

I think you're talking about co-dependency, not a good healthy give & take relationship. And I disagree that "Everything happens for a reason". God or luck isn't going to shine a beam of light down on that person that could make your life so much happier...even if you're feeling happy already. That person that could make your life so much fuller could be in front of you in line at the store. And if you're not a bit hungry, you ain't getting fed.

I was more thinkin about the many threads ive read that start..."when am i gonna find the man/woman of my dreams.." or many other of threads whos general theme is finding someone or complaining about being lonely.

Thats ok that u disagree, we r all entitled to our opinion, mines just differs from urs. Maybe the day u met that person in front of u happened at the right time, maybe u were both meant to be in that spot, maybe u were emotionally ready, and they were too.

We wont ever know in this life, so its all just opinions.

I think that I understand what you said. And you are right that if one is desperate, they tend to not choose wisely. I've never found anything when I was desperately seeking it. Always when I least expected it. If we are starving, we are likely to gobble up something not as good for us as it looked. But in the 3 long-term relationships that I've been in, I was always happier than being alone, even though I stay busy and am never really "down".