Jill, righty-O!!

I posted that FWB thread and I got tons and tons of really good advice. I really thought about most of it (there were some jokey ones or ones where they obviously hadn't read the thread)...

But overall I tried to really explain myself well and then really listen to what was said back to me. It was enlightening. Plus I got all these great e-mails too....

Granted we have all been hurt before and may very well get hurt again, that's the nature of the beast.

But just because there is a chance of getting hurt, should we stop trying to be happy?

just my curious nature

I would suppose that any advice is intended to help.....it is just up to us to decide which parts to absorb and use for ourselves and which parts to ignore and know that they meant well.

The best advice here is to use " Mutual Match" & ride the wave of romance today!!

lots of know-it-alls on here and (as you aluded too) most of "them" don't have a clue be seeing you

And sometimes you get negative advice because the people responding are just negative and that's really what they would do. Sometimes people do walk away from relationships just that easy. Some don't. You never know...

Dude that is so true very very sad but more true of a statement than i have heard in a long time

most of my advice is intended to elicit a smile or provide an alternative view.....other than that....probably not much value in it

I think the other issue is the OP never (okay, rarely, super rarely) gives the whole story or enough information to even make a sound opinion on....

There is no wrong or right advice from anyone....

People give their share of their own experiences in hoping that what they did wrong or right can work for the positive or even the negative in your favor....


Now if someone is giving this information to you to sincerely help you with you're going through take it with a grain of salt and use with caution but do keep it in mind, Now if you have someone running off at the mouth which are usually the ones whom never kept a relationship, shut them up before they begin to talk, say thank you and smile. (and in your mind state how much of a azzhole they are)

If you don't tell your story to someone no on will have a story to tell you

I think u should pick thru the advce givin to u cause sometime it is givin on a one sided story other time i have found the best advice comes from the people who know ur relationship people directly involved ie family n close friends cause they see the story from both side like an outsider lookin in they can see what is going wrong and what is going right

I think many people have a pessimistic outlook on life its not meaning to be negativity is all they really know how to give is negative advice

I'm just here for the beer, peanuts, and breast shots.

Well i think everyone is entitled to share their knowledge if they choose to, just because a person is single does not mean they are not gaining wisdom from life.

We can all look at our mistakes, and learn from them, we can all share with others 'wat didnt work' if we choose to.

I guess its the diff between being positive in ur outlook towards life, or negative.