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Topic: dating help please
ljs789 Joined Sun 02/15/09 Posts: 41	Sun 02/15/09 02:30 PM
So I had my first date since my divorce a couple of weeks ago and the guy never called back. Why? Because I was really, really, really nervous about the whole deal. I didn't know what to say, how to act or how to end the evening. He probably thought I was a freak of some kind. I'm not devasted by the fact he never called back, I think of it as practice. lol Anybody got any advice?

misstina2 Joined Sat 11/01/08 Posts: 13508	Sun 02/15/09 02:32 PM
keep trying perhaps have a few drinks next time

trsmith22 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 5959	Sun 02/15/09 02:32 PM
Yes, just be yourself. Don't let the fact of meeting someone new get to you. You are yourself 99% of the day, and just because you have a date, doesn't mean it has to change.

Unknow Joined Sat 12/15/07 Posts: 41170	Sun 02/15/09 02:33 PM
Relax and have fun. Try to enjoy without pressure.

iam4u Joined Fri 10/13/06 Posts: 30096	Sun 02/15/09 02:36 PM
So I had my first date since my divorce a couple of weeks ago and the guy never called back. Why? Because I was really, really, really nervous about the whole deal. I didn't know what to say, how to act or how to end the evening. He probably thought I was a freak of some kind. I'm not devasted by the fact he never called back, I think of it as practice. lol Anybody got any advice? Just roll with it and don't think about it much..Could be a lot of things but as long as it went half well thats not BAD,,so he may call ya again. If NOT he wasn't worth your attention to worry about it. PRATICE makes PERFECT,wink, This is true,,wink,lol Good luck..

ljs789 Joined Sun 02/15/09 Posts: 41	Sun 02/15/09 02:37 PM
Relax and have fun. Try to enjoy without pressure. Easier said than done, but i'll try. Maybe next time I can get through the evening without going duh, duh, duh for most of the night. lol

Jill298 Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 16316	Sun 02/15/09 02:39 PM
I get so nervous on 1st dates sometimes I can't even look them in the eye. But you just try to get past it and have fun. Forget everything else. Look at it for what it is. Two people out to enjoy an evening together.

ljs789 Joined Sun 02/15/09 Posts: 41	Sun 02/15/09 02:39 PM
So I had my first date since my divorce a couple of weeks ago and the guy never called back. Why? Because I was really, really, really nervous about the whole deal. I didn't know what to say, how to act or how to end the evening. He probably thought I was a freak of some kind. I'm not devasted by the fact he never called back, I think of it as practice. lol Anybody got any advice? Just roll with it and don't think about it much..Could be a lot of things but as long as it went half well thats not BAD,,so he may call ya again. If NOT he wasn't worth your attention to worry about it. PRATICE makes PERFECT,wink, This is true,,wink,lol Good luck.. I thought it went well except for the last hour and a half. Then it was pretty much just awkward. We both ran out of things to say. next time I'll have a list of questions ready. :)

Jill298 Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 16316	Sun 02/15/09 02:40 PM
Relax and have fun. Try to enjoy without pressure. Easier said than done, but i'll try. Maybe next time I can get through the evening without going duh, duh, duh for most of the night. lol sweety you can't expect someone to like you for you, when you don't even show them who you really are.

ljs789 Joined Sun 02/15/09 Posts: 41	Sun 02/15/09 02:41 PM
Thanks everyone for your help. So basically, I just need to be myself and don't try to impress by being or acting like someone I'm not. Sounds like a plan.

iam4u Joined Fri 10/13/06 Posts: 30096	Sun 02/15/09 02:41 PM
So I had my first date since my divorce a couple of weeks ago and the guy never called back. Why? Because I was really, really, really nervous about the whole deal. I didn't know what to say, how to act or how to end the evening. He probably thought I was a freak of some kind. I'm not devasted by the fact he never called back, I think of it as practice. lol Anybody got any advice? Just roll with it and don't think about it much..Could be a lot of things but as long as it went half well thats not BAD,,so he may call ya again. If NOT he wasn't worth your attention to worry about it. PRATICE makes PERFECT,wink, This is true,,wink,lol Good luck.. That could never happen to me,lol,lol I talk enough for four people,lol,lol But THAT happens a lot to some friends I have who don't talk much,wink..You just need a good leader in that area,,, I thought it went well except for the last hour and a half. Then it was pretty much just awkward. We both ran out of things to say. next time I'll have a list of questions ready. :)

Jill298 Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 16316	Sun 02/15/09 02:42 PM
Thanks everyone for your help. So basically, I just need to be myself and don't try to impress by being or acting like someone I'm not. Sounds like a plan. exactly. And if he doesn't call you back, just be ok with it and find someone that will. Someone will, I promise.

trsmith22 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 5959	Sun 02/15/09 02:43 PM
Thanks everyone for your help. So basically, I just need to be myself and don't try to impress by being or acting like someone I'm not. Sounds like a plan. Always be yourself..nothing more, nothing less

AllSmilesInTulsa Joined Mon 05/28/07 Posts: 1903	Sun 02/15/09 02:44 PM
When I start to feel nervous I ask myself "why"? Usually it is because I want him to like me... so I tell myself that I cannot control his feelings. I can only be me and I like me enough for both of us.

Jim519 Joined Thu 12/27/07 Posts: 9203	Sun 02/15/09 02:48 PM
Loosen up and have a good time. Maybe tell him next time, "Hey, it's been a long time so I am nervous. If he is a decent guy he will make more emphasis on making it easier on you...

ljs789 Joined Sun 02/15/09 Posts: 41	Sun 02/15/09 02:58 PM
When I start to feel nervous I ask myself "why"? Usually it is because I want him to like me... so I tell myself that I cannot control his feelings. I can only be me and I like me enough for both of us. That's great advice. Thanks.

michiganman3 Joined Mon 10/29/07 Posts: 14521	Sun 02/15/09 05:50 PM
Its tough getting back out there if you've been out of the game for a while. Remember its just a date, one evening, a couple of hours. Nothing to freak out about. You could call him...........

Citizen_Joe Joined Sat 04/12/08 Posts: 4036	Sun 02/15/09 07:39 PM
So I had my first date since my divorce a couple of weeks ago and the guy never called back. Why? Because I was really, really, really nervous about the whole deal. I didn't know what to say, how to act or how to end the evening. He probably thought I was a freak of some kind. I'm not devasted by the fact he never called back, I think of it as practice. lol Anybody got any advice? Next.

PATSFAN Joined Mon 12/10/07 Posts: 42782	Sun 02/15/09 07:46 PM
It could be that he is nervous as well, I like to talk to people for sometime first before even deciding to meet, for me it takes alot of the pressure off.