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Topic: A Connection
Peccy Joined Thu 06/28/07 Posts: 17181	Sat 02/14/09 07:50 AM
I think it's that what we think and say we want all goes out the window when animal instincts kick in. Our brains and our bodies have different needs. Yes but that's why their pictures and cams, to find out if you really do want to meet and try. Either that or I have just been pretty lucky......lol Looks aren't all that play in animal instincts. A lot of it is behavior, like downhomechik said. The internet can be a good way to meet people, but face to face is really where it's made or broken. Hence the predetermined meeting time.

padams9098 Joined Tue 03/11/08 Posts: 2644	Sat 02/14/09 07:55 AM
I think it's that what we think and say we want all goes out the window when animal instincts kick in. Our brains and our bodies have different needs. Yes but that's why their pictures and cams, to find out if you really do want to meet and try. Either that or I have just been pretty lucky......lol Looks aren't all that play in animal instincts. A lot of it is behavior, like downhomechik said. The internet can be a good way to meet people, but face to face is really where it's made or broken. Hence the predetermined meeting time. Uh oh, what did I step into?

downhomechik Joined Sat 04/12/08 Posts: 479	Sat 02/14/09 07:55 AM
I love getting everyone all FIRED up!!! All in all at the end of the day--- I believe meeting someone face to face is the only true way to know if there is a real connection....

skyskier Joined Mon 08/27/07 Posts: 6	Sat 02/14/09 08:00 AM
Is it a date if you dont meet face to face(come on)Internet is just an interveiw to get to the face to face date

Peccy Joined Thu 06/28/07 Posts: 17181	Sat 02/14/09 08:47 AM Edited by Peccy on Sat 02/14/09 08:48 AM
LOL, not getting fired up, went to the bank, and no, not ever a date online. Simply a lot of talking and looking at them to decide if you want to pursue things. What can I say, I have not gone wrong in any of the women I have married (once) dated (more than I care to share) or simply befriended people online (right downhome?)......lol

durtydduck Joined Wed 11/19/08 Posts: 1972	Sat 02/14/09 09:25 AM
It goes both ways There are some women on here I really like . Their personalities are just fantastic. But if I were to meet them in person... I am afraid it wouldn't work.. to many ifs. Mostly because the internet hides to many other things. Yes, this is what I'm saying.... Amongst some of my male friends --some of them I truly enjoy their personalities and have connections with them on that level, however, there are things about them on the behavioral level that I am completely turned off by. Is the conclusion that you must "meet" a person before you can really say there is any connection at all? sometimes I wonder if that's best.. things Like "love at first sight " can play havoc on a person... And yes Virginia it does exist! BUT if two people are truly open and honest and all the questions asked and answered to each's satisfaction, Then maybe a meet doesn't become all that important..Hmmm what a concept?

durtydduck Joined Wed 11/19/08 Posts: 1972	Sat 02/14/09 09:32 AM Edited by durtydduck on Sat 02/14/09 09:33 AM
I think its even more than that.....some of these men are physically attractive to me well. Here's where it gets complicated. Behavior is important.....and maybe some of you more astute people could tell me why... I notice things like the fact that at lunch time he leaves his napkin on the table instead of throws it away. One of them doesn't listen and often starts talking changing the subject before another person finishes talking. One never holds a door for a woman. Maybe the behavioral level is more important to me ? ? Guys, I know because I am one, simply forget at times or just don't think about it. A verbal cue is needed sometimes. But if you have to constantly remind us to do something, then that's a sign the man does not care what you think and you simply are "constantly bit(hing at him. No it's not right but that's how it works. ****************************** These guys are only friends and I've never once ***ed at any of them. I'm saying its just my observation & the men that I've been most attracted to often exhibit behavioral cues like thoughtfulness, encouragement, manners ----and while I may "think" he has this in him --- when I meet him or spend time with him I can see it or not. A good man will know all the things that are important to you . He will ask, find out and use that information . Just to make you happy.. Some men just don't care,, "accept me as I am" not what you want me to be syndrome?.. Little things like proper manners, being considerate of you makes a difference.. And any man worth his weight should know this and act on it.. period.