been there. i had a girl that i was mad about but she drank all the time and smoked pot. every time i was around her she was either drunk or high or both. i really wanted to be with her and i really enjoyed spending time with her so i ignored it.
i compromised my standards for something that i wanted and still never got.

i've learned to never compromise your standards for someone you think has the potential to be what you want. chances are they won't change if they're even able to.

on the other hand, i now have a friend who is fun to hang out with and who i can be myself around. the problem is that i am so unattracted to her that i'm almost repulsed. there will never be anything more than friends with this girl.

I would slap them upside the head and then bake them a pie!!!

YOUR THE BOMB!

I know!!!

We gotta party debbie!!!

I am trying to figure out why would folks want to be with someone they know is not going to give them what they want? Why waste their time but more importantly your own? Maybe sabotageing the relationship by picking someone you know you aren't going to like gives you an excuse if they don't like you?

it's a classic situation. they may not be every thing that you want, but you hope that maybe they'll change and become the person you think they should be and the person you want. women do this all the time. try to take a bad boy and when they tire of his ways, try to domesticate him.
and when they can't they break up and say all men are a$$holes.

i never asked her to not smoke pot and i suggested to her that i thought her drinking was a problem and that it concerned me.

the only thing i asked her to change was the way she felt about me.

we arent allowed to kill them though........

I would say.............SEE YA!!!!

Ya to what?

...punt for the 3 points?