I have to tell you, I've lost a girlfriend last year Fall, due to loosing my job and not having enough money and only scraping by lately. She didn't really say the reason, but I knew it, since she kept saying how we can't go anywhere as we like and how she can't even think about getting kids or getting married, because we wouldn't be able to support them. So she said, she is gonna move on, because somehow she doesn't feel like she is living the life she imagined for herself.

She also said, I'm not doing enough to reach my goals, that I'm stalled, even though I sent out at least 20-30 job applications and resumes all over the place.

So anyway, what she said, that I just don't fit with her and that's after 6 months of being together. This happened to me, after ending another relationship which only lasted 3 months and the reason was very similar.

I try not to be biased or throw everyone under one hat, but ever since I try not to say, that most women are looking for someone with a stable job and good cash running in, instead of just getting together with someone and try to make a difference together.

So any of you have any stories how this economy effecting or effected your relationship?

It seems most won't date someone without a job, this sucks for me, but thousands of people are losing their jobs daily. Pretty soon alot of people won't be dating due to this

Sounds like she was a gold digger to me. Sorry you lost your job, but at least you saw what she was really about.

she could have been, I don't know her so I can't really say. However, I don't think it's fair to call someone a gold digger if they wanna date someone that is self supportive with a their own job. It could just be she wanted someone with more ambition. Or maybe she was scared she would be supporting him too in the long run.

If a man accrued net worth in visible security, such as home, acreage, automobiles, business and operating stock, the next (and always) sensible step is for collaborative effort.

This has always been true. No?

Having already evidenced determination to set goals--and achieve/surpass them--is a basic proof of potential worthiness for a woman to risk her own self and her offspring to a mate's character.

That's just always the way. Predictable.

Unemployment could become a goad for those ladies in the market to venture friendship or some sort of relationship with a "landed" male, in a collaborative effort to sustain both people rather than to proudly end up destitute and in dire straits.

If the lady will settle for excuses, there's a daily visit time at the local slammer where the pretty females line up to hear the wisdom from their bad boy lovers behind bars.

Well, most women (99%) looking for a male who is able to make babies, and support their family financially able to buy food and all the necessities.
So anyone looking for long-term relationship, this is what it's breaking down to.

That's one thing, but if you really think about it and put the current situation in perspective, I don't know how any women can expect a male to have a steady job nowadays, unless of course the person works in the government or sells drugs, because even some of the millionares got into a tight situation, so nothing is really secure.

The other thing is, I thought love does not know boundaries and put the family planning and marriage a little off, so far no women i have met thought about the fact, that 2 is more than 1 and capable for more, instead of trying to go the comfortable way to hit jackpot right out of the box.

I understand that some things are out of your control. I understand that there are thousands upon thousands of people out there looking for work because of lay offs.
I'm not saying what your ex did was right by leaving you.
All I'm trying to say is that it's not fair to call a woman a gold digger because she wants to date someone that supports himself.
I'm not looking for a man to support me. However, I sure can't afford to support him. I don't want a man that I have to feed, cloth, and give gas money to. If I wanted that, I would have another kid. That doesn't make me a gold digger. A gold digger would be not dating someone simply because he doesn't make enough money for my style.
I don't care what my bf does for work as long as it's legal, and he can pay his own bills. I can't afford to do it for him.

You're absolutely right and if you notice, most men don't care about the financial situation the woman is in and there is no way I'd allow to be living off from a women's paycheck and neither most of the men wants that, it's kinda of a shameful thing and hurts their pride, which is the way it supposed to be. As you can see, I got internet access, I eat (otherwise I'll be dead by now) and I have money to pay my bills. Basically, I am capable of living off from the money I make right now, even though it's a lot less than I made a few years ago. But a few months ago, i got into such a tight situation, that I couldn't even pay my cell phone bill and although things are improving a bit lately, I'm still far from my goals.
After saying all this, she was well aware of these, also, that I am capable of much more than I am and somehow I was unable to explain, that the reason I went downhill, was something not in my control.

And by the way, would it help if I tell you, that she had no job whatsoever?

Oh well...

6 months is not love it's like and or passion... The honeymoon usually ends at about 6 months and that's when you either make it or break it... As far as income goes... I know it's really hard out there and I feel lucky every day that I have a job that there is a slim chance I will be laid off... Perhaps it's not about how many jobs you applied for but the types of jobs you're applying for... Perhaps she wants a different life and those jobs won't afford that. There is nothing wrong with her wanting more in life and she was honest with you.. If her intentions are bad then I think karma will take care of her later..

Good luck in finding a job and remember a very special woman won't care if you're temporarily unemployed.. But you do have to be able to keep her interested with activities besides watching dvd's and jumping in the sack... jmho

I hear the porn industry asked for a bailout and the pay for play ladies are also suffering, esp with Patsfan out of work LOL

THAT'S what I was waiting for! I was just about to quote Jill's original response and say that I didn't see anything in the original OP about HER having a job. In light of this new information, yeah, it definitely sounds to me like she was a gold digger and materialistic.

I can't afford a life

Yaeh divorce (lol)

Hey...we finally agree on something...lol!!

affect is a verb
effect is a noun

maybe the reason your girlfriend broke up with you isn't because you lost your job, maybe it's because you can't use basic grammar

Yeah, it's happened more than once lately. What the hell??

I just got into a break up not too long ago as well. Whether it had anything to do with our global economic situation remains to be seen, but I wouldn't be surprised if it did.

I don't wanna get into any details about the situation, though.

Well anyway, trust me I'm more interesting than someone who sits around and watches DVDs or hangs around on the computer..I speak 3 languages...and this is my 2nd I'm using to write here.. , but back to the topic...If the recession gets worse and more people will loose their jobs..how is this gonna effect families, or even just think about creating families while worrying about jobs and money and having a house...I think, some people really need to return to reality and accept, that things aren't going to be the same like 3 years ago, and people will have to lower their expectations, otherwise they will find themselves alone.

I would date you Pats!! I prefer staying home and cuddling on the couch!