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Topic: why do women
durtydduck Joined Wed 11/19/08 Posts: 1972	Thu 01/29/09 03:22 PM
Intimate Encounter = Sex Only. You know, the one night stand type deal. that I get really,, maybe it should read JUST an intimate encounter... If someone was looking for something other than an intimate encounter (just sex) there are other choices. Why would you choose intimate encounter if you were looking for more than that? I guess the way I phrased the question most didn't read the second part of it.. wouldn't that be an issue later? why don't they just leave it off? yes I know I read the others comments "its to stop getting guys who are looking for one night stands only".... hey Men get those types too. but we don't care about them and just laugh about it.. thats not the point though...

RKISIT Joined Tue 01/08/08 Posts: 16721	Thu 01/29/09 03:23 PM
sorry I even thought this might be a good question and that I didn't clarify it properly.. sure its plain and simple.... so I take the heat now.. and probably get a label in the meantime... oh well so what I won't care. there's nothing wrong with asking a question and having it clarified (at least from someone else's perspective). i always had problems with understanding what was meant by 'activity partner'. the addition of 'intimate encounter' helped clarify it somewhat. bingo ,never really could figure out why that would even be a choice.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Thu 01/29/09 03:23 PM
sorry I even thought this might be a good question and that I didn't clarify it properly.. sure its plain and simple.... so I take the heat now.. and probably get a label in the meantime... oh well so what I won't care. there's nothing wrong with asking a question and having it clarified (at least from someone else's perspective). i always had problems with understanding what was meant by 'activity partner'. the addition of 'intimate encounter' helped clarify it somewhat. I always thought activity partner meant non-romantic/non-sexual type activities.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Thu 01/29/09 03:24 PM
Intimate Encounter = Sex Only. You know, the one night stand type deal. that I get really,, maybe it should read JUST an intimate encounter... If someone was looking for something other than an intimate encounter (just sex) there are other choices. Why would you choose intimate encounter if you were looking for more than that? I guess the way I phrased the question most didn't read the second part of it.. wouldn't that be an issue later? why don't they just leave it off? yes I know I read the others comments "its to stop getting guys who are looking for one night stands only".... hey Men get those types too. but we don't care about them and just laugh about it.. thats not the point though... How would it be an issue later? Are you assuming that these women aren't going to eventually want to have sex with someone they're dating?

Atlantis75 Joined Wed 12/03/08 Posts: 8581	Thu 01/29/09 03:28 PM
sorry I even thought this might be a good question and that I didn't clarify it properly.. sure its plain and simple.... so I take the heat now.. and probably get a label in the meantime... oh well so what I won't care. there's nothing wrong with asking a question and having it clarified (at least from someone else's perspective). i always had problems with understanding what was meant by 'activity partner'. the addition of 'intimate encounter' helped clarify it somewhat. I always thought activity partner meant non-romantic/non-sexual type activities. right...let's knit a sweater together!

heartbreaker123 Joined Mon 11/10/08 Posts: 1081	Thu 01/29/09 03:30 PM
put on their profiles that they are looking for either a relationship or a long term relationship, YET also list in there not looking for intimate encounter? isn't that going to be an issue? you have a good point i say on mine looking for friend ship,and if we meet and it goes to the next step fine if not fine allso,but men do the same us gal's do,why wont they state if married singel seperated instead they give no ans.so no heat here

s1owhand Joined Fri 05/18/07 Posts: 29437	Thu 01/29/09 03:31 PM
"activity partner" could easily mean Friends Without Benefits or Benefits Without Friendship

canaryrx8 Joined Thu 01/03/08 Posts: 361	Thu 01/29/09 03:31 PM
how intimate can it be if it's posted on the interweb?

Mr_Music Joined Wed 10/22/08 Posts: 10677	Thu 01/29/09 03:34 PM
I get so sick and tired of getting my inbox inundated with mail from women all looking for one night stands. I mean, I know I'm great and all, and I understand the fact that they all want me, I can dig that, but I get really tired of being treated like a piece of meat all the time. Why do they always just have one thing on their minds? Sheesh! Can't they just like me for being absolute perfection instead of just their personal play toy? Eww.

HockeyChick Joined Thu 10/23/08 Posts: 4194	Thu 01/29/09 03:38 PM
Intimate Encounter = Sex Only. You know, the one night stand type deal. that I get really,, maybe it should read JUST an intimate encounter... you are over complicating things...and whining bc you do have intimate encounter that ur looking for and can't email ppl...lol are you so sure? I came to this site because I was asked to by a friend.. I stayed because of the forums.. And yes I have talked with a few ladies via e mail..And to straighten some facts here... I wouldn't e mail most ofthe women on this site. thats my preference. But as for that intimate encounter that I am looking for.. I sure as heck don't need this site for that. your pretty judgemental without knowing something about someone... as I said I will take the heat from this....its okay really I can handle it. har har @ pretty judgmental...i can only read what you wrote & respond to it..at least you can admit to that, even tho u try to dig back..lol i can only suggest re reading and editing posts, so you get the real answers you want for what ya mean, not just responses to what you write.. peace

HockeyChick Joined Thu 10/23/08 Posts: 4194	Thu 01/29/09 03:38 PM
sorry I even thought this might be a good question and that I didn't clarify it properly.. sure its plain and simple.... so I take the heat now.. and probably get a label in the meantime... oh well so what I won't care. there's nothing wrong with asking a question and having it clarified (at least from someone else's perspective). i always had problems with understanding what was meant by 'activity partner'. the addition of 'intimate encounter' helped clarify it somewhat. I always thought activity partner meant non-romantic/non-sexual type activities. me too nods

HockeyChick Joined Thu 10/23/08 Posts: 4194	Thu 01/29/09 03:39 PM
Intimate Encounter = Sex Only. You know, the one night stand type deal. that I get really,, maybe it should read JUST an intimate encounter... If someone was looking for something other than an intimate encounter (just sex) there are other choices. Why would you choose intimate encounter if you were looking for more than that? I guess the way I phrased the question most didn't read the second part of it.. wouldn't that be an issue later? why don't they just leave it off? yes I know I read the others comments "its to stop getting guys who are looking for one night stands only".... hey Men get those types too. but we don't care about them and just laugh about it.. thats not the point though... How would it be an issue later? Are you assuming that these women aren't going to eventually want to have sex with someone they're dating? ummm exactly...LMAO unless someone posts they are under a vow of celibacy??

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Thu 01/29/09 03:41 PM
Intimate Encounter = Sex Only. You know, the one night stand type deal. that I get really,, maybe it should read JUST an intimate encounter... If someone was looking for something other than an intimate encounter (just sex) there are other choices. Why would you choose intimate encounter if you were looking for more than that? I guess the way I phrased the question most didn't read the second part of it.. wouldn't that be an issue later? why don't they just leave it off? yes I know I read the others comments "its to stop getting guys who are looking for one night stands only".... hey Men get those types too. but we don't care about them and just laugh about it.. thats not the point though... How would it be an issue later? Are you assuming that these women aren't going to eventually want to have sex with someone they're dating? ummm exactly...LMAO unless someone posts they are under a vow of celibacy?? Yeah, I'm not sure what he meant by that.

justme659 Joined Wed 10/03/07 Posts: 6144	Thu 01/29/09 03:50 PM
put on their profiles that they are looking for either a relationship or a long term relationship, YET also list in there not looking for intimate encounter? isn't that going to be an issue? It wont be an issue AFTER finding or being in that loving relationship most are looking for. It should be a gradual grow together thing, not a quick intimate incounter and poof, he or she is gone. For me personally, I can take care of that intimate stuff all alone, I dont want to, but I can. That is untill I find the right person that wants me for me a long term loving relationship. Then and only then he gets to share in the magical perfect me. Ok sure, you have to test drive to see if you are compatiable, but only if it is just right between two consenting adults. Lots of variables in that "just right". So the "not looking for intimate incounter" to me means no one night stands or sex on the first date, but not to go forever with out intimate incounters.

HockeyChick Joined Thu 10/23/08 Posts: 4194	Thu 01/29/09 03:52 PM
put on their profiles that they are looking for either a relationship or a long term relationship, YET also list in there not looking for intimate encounter? isn't that going to be an issue? It wont be an issue AFTER finding or being in that loving relationship most are looking for. It should be a gradual grow together thing, not a quick intimate incounter and poof, he or she is gone. For me personally, I can take care of that intimate stuff all alone, I dont want to, but I can. That is untill I find the right person that wants me for me a long term loving relationship. Then and only then he gets to share in the magical perfect me. Ok sure, you have to test drive to see if you are compatiable, but only if it is just right between two consenting adults. Lots of variables in that "just right". So the "not looking for intimate incounter" to me means no one night stands or sex on the first date, but not to go forever with out intimate incounters. you rock--thank you for taking the time to type it all out... hopefully that clears it up!

scoundrel Joined Thu 07/03/08 Posts: 5960	Thu 01/29/09 03:55 PM
I get so sick and tired of getting my inbox inundated with mail from women all looking for one night stands. I mean, I know I'm great and all, and I understand the fact that they all want me, I can dig that, but I get really tired of being treated like a piece of meat all the time. Why do they always just have one thing on their minds? Sheesh! Can't they just like me for being absolute perfection instead of just their personal play toy? Eww. Told you that were still in the game, Mr. Eye Candy. Women ain't letting you get away with being just sociable.

mixmantech Joined Sun 01/11/09 Posts: 1019	Thu 01/29/09 03:59 PM
i was watching something on dateline about marrage and sex.. and they said that like 37% of married people had sex on there first date

justme659 Joined Wed 10/03/07 Posts: 6144	Thu 01/29/09 04:02 PM
i was watching something on dateline about marrage and sex.. and they said that like 37% of married people had sex on there first date And 63% didnt. Sounds to me that more people are opting for waiting for that intimate incounter.

mixmantech Joined Sun 01/11/09 Posts: 1019	Thu 01/29/09 04:11 PM
i was watching something on dateline about marrage and sex.. and they said that like 37% of married people had sex on there first date And 63% didnt. Sounds to me that more people are opting for waiting for that intimate incounter. tahts still about one and four

Mr_Music Joined Wed 10/22/08 Posts: 10677	Thu 01/29/09 04:21 PM
I get so sick and tired of getting my inbox inundated with mail from women all looking for one night stands. I mean, I know I'm great and all, and I understand the fact that they all want me, I can dig that, but I get really tired of being treated like a piece of meat all the time. Why do they always just have one thing on their minds? Sheesh! Can't they just like me for being absolute perfection instead of just their personal play toy? Eww. Told you that were still in the game, Mr. Eye Candy. Women ain't letting you get away with being just sociable. I know, but it just gets so sickening being a sex symbol constantly. All those women ever want to do is just get into my pants. It's disgusting.