i agree with you, at least acknowledge the guy if thats by saying, i enjoyed your email but.....

as its rather rude to ignore anyway.

i rarely send emails and i only send emails to people ive met via the forums, so im not so prone to that kind of ignorance as some.

which is another reason as to why im such a fan of the forums.

Honestly .. I hear the OP's statement totally different than most on here have.

I have sons.

They have often told me how HARD it is being the guy. It's not just about emails on an online dating site. It's about taking the initiative and getting rejected.

Gosh I remember my youngest son buying this stuffed bear and candy for a girl he liked in middle school on Valentine's Day. With his own $$ that he didn't have much of. I wanted to say .. NOOOOOOOO don't do that. But he was determined. Ya. Well, you know where this is going. She barely acknowledged the gift let alone thanked him. B*TCH!!! LOL .. that was my SON you treated like trash ..

Honestly, I like being a woman so much better. I would not want to be expected to be the one to reach out first. I have to believe it's painful the rejection guys get sometimes.

Now I know .. I know. In today's society, women initiate too. But still not as much as guys do and they've been doing it all along. It's got to be HARD!

I think all FLY was attempting to say is .. wow, it's tough bein a guy and after trying to make an impression, still not connecting.

I personally feel his pain. As I do my sons.

Nuf said.

thank you f2b you are a true lady.

My pleasure.

That's one of the problems with online communication of any kind. We can be misunderstood a LOT.

I mean the "communication is not what I say but what you hear" is even worse when it's

"not what I write but what you read"

Unfortunately, so is life. You step up, get knocked down, step up again, knocked down again...but eventually you continue to stand. We all have to take bumps and bruises, without those we ultimately will have no character or substance to us. Rejection happens to everyone, however it is on you to find the right person whom won't reject you...not an entire community.

Didn't see this, sorry...help yourself, don't worry about me. At least I don't have a stick up my ass...

(( Duane ))

Point well taken EXCEPTING that we make thread after thread about our woes, our struggles, our concerns, our joys and our celebrations.

I find it interesting how we will embrace one thread (& it's OP) and yet another we reject.

I know that's not a popular subject but I DO find it true. Sad as it is. We will rally around the one licking their wounds and not the other.

Community is like family. We are supposed to affirm, not tear down.

We are supposed to be a community, as you say. The OP was merely voicing his frustration and he was hung at dawn.

Honestly .. I'm not behind that at all. Just sayin.

and you KNOW I say what I think babe. so ya.

Better hung at dawn than sink or swim and end up getting stoned.

I think a lot of people, myself included, tried to empathasize with his frustrations. Which, IMO, resulted in more defense and postering. It was a case of enough already, let it go, stop taking it so seriously.

I as well speak my mind, layed it down...and he has attacked me, so he can shove off.

*sigh*

arghhh i need to read all the replies before i offer my advice to people!!!!


theres always the edit button tho

i was fairly annoyed that he complimented F2b on her reply, yet ignored my one. not that im looking for compliments, i just thought it was rather sexist lol

Just so you know I'm not bsing here, the "Start putting a small amount of effort" is my post...to which the next quote is sap idea of a reply. So again, he can shove off.

well I AM the woman to know .. yanno




uhhh perhaps he felt a bit overwhelmed when the stoning started

uhhh Duane I think we got the 'shove off' the first time .. no reason to reiterate


and I'm not totally agreeing with the way the OP dealt with the arguments, but just sayin I think his original statement was misunderstood.

THAT'S ALL *holds out white flag to angry audience*

It was pebbles on the window until he decided.... otherwise.

Point is I gave my advice to him, and he in turn either ignored it (first post, first page) or attacked me (above post). If he can't handle the critic why the hell post a topic that will be read by the critics? I honestly wouldn't have gave a damn had he ignored my post again, but instead he chose to attack me, and then attacked me again a few more times...so maybe he is the problem here, but being as he is like the majority of men when it comes to facing our own issues he won't face them and instead blame it on someone else being "rude" when in fact it is him.

If we look in the mirror we can change more than if we look at everyone else, we can't start change if we don't begin the motion.

and now there are two...

sorry it took so long.. I was fending off the wolfs.

You mean wolves?

Sorry Fade....

you call that pebbles???