Although I have seen much much worse in 2 year olds. My dauhgter has been giving me the sassy "NO!" "NO!" You know the tone. I'm a first time father and want and strive to do right by her. At times I have difficulty psychologicly giving the right response back to her as to not be negative about my comment. I keep her on a schedule and give her naps regularly. So it helps the attitude. In search of a few suggestions.

Love, Prayer, Patience, and Time-Out

Hi. Thank you Beauty for bringing me back down to earth. Ahh the obvious.

you're welcome

it is her job to push the limits...so that she may discover what "they" are......be consistent .

take a deep breath, count to about 10,000
then give them a big hug, kiss, and tell them you love them.
If that doesnt work spank the crap out of them JUST KIDDING.
I know its hard but try to reason with them, if that doesnt work take away something that is a favorite to them.

You've got to hold your ground. You simply don't give in when she talks to you like that. In what context is she telling you the "NO NO" sassy talk? Is it when you tell her to do something?

This is how children start taking advantage and control, not the parents.

Actually as frusterateing as it might be this is an excellent developemental marker. The concept of "No" is starting to catch on to her. A great improvement over demand your needs and letting parents guess which one.

She is testing it out to see how it applies to her. Is it something she gets to express and if so where and how.

As a parent you have to decide when it does and does not apply to her. Since her further deveopement depends on her external saftey system (following "No" when she hears it) it is a very important concept for her to internalize. It is also important that she learns how it works.

Actually it can be a fun game to play together. Children learn thru play best. Try Freeze tag. Simone Says. Mother May I? When she gets the idea lots of hugs and praise. Letting her have turns at telling you "no" in appropriate situations will teach her where it applys to her.

If she is useing "no" a lot it may be fatigue during a developemental stage. Terrible two's doesn't just apply with the people who live through it but also the two year old.

As it relates to child development, the even numbers are always more difficult in children behaviorally for some reason. At 4, they will be worse than 3 etc.... It’s normal and nothing to worry about, but simply endured. Try the time out when she is obstinate with a command. Try 2 minutes that she must sit on a chair with no stimulus allowed. Set a timer. She is not to get off that chair for 2 full minutes. Every time she gets off, start the timer over again. She will get it after a few tries.

First of all we must remember little ones are like a tape recorder. They repeat what they hear others say and the tone they use. So we must be consistent with how we teach them and watch what we say in front of them to others.

For if you have not yet been embarrassed get ready it always happens at the wrong time.

My child never went through the 2 yr. old "no" stage.

I'm hearing that it since it didn't happen, it could show up worse when they're a teenager.

Only 10,000?

"Time out"....where was this when WE were growing up??

teenagers are 5,000 times worse

I got the switch quite often..no time outs.

Time out is used with my toddlers at work. You can only sit them in it a minute for each year old they are. So mine sit a whole 60 seconds. Doesn't do a bit of good LOL Gosh I love them.

Time out worked for my child. I did the minute for each year rule too.

There was a problem with the yelling while in time-out. That increased the time.

Some parents refuse to spank at all. I have no problem with minor spankings whatsoever. I have three nephews and a niece I have babysat for. I also have no problem with slaps on the back of the wrists.

Time outs can be very effective with toddlers. Usually a spank is just going to set them off crying. Time outs cause them to focus and use their brains. Its asks for introspection which a toddler is capable of.

Well yes, but it seems like her favorite word.

Excellent. I think I get that. Also, she didn't feel good yesterday and she said it a lot yesterday.

Everybody has had such good ideas and suggestions! Thank you!

Sometimes I am on a short fuse as well. I have to be careful. This is my one chance I have to do this right. Well...You never know but I think it's my one chance.

Thank you everyone