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Topic: Just what determines "normal"?
Marley Joined Mon 10/02/06 Posts: 3922	Thu 01/15/09 10:20 AM
I attended a luncheon last with a group of people. Sitting across from was a very beautiful woman. She was charming and seemed to be intelligent. However, one of her hands was slightly smaller than the other and her fingers were gnarled and twisted inward. Nonetheless, she appeared to be able to use it just as she could her other hand. Instead of focusing on her beauty or intelligence, my eyes were drawn to her hand. I guess because I perceived it not to be normal. Why is that beauty or intelligence are overlooked because we think that something that is not "normal"? Has anyone ever read Nathaniel Hawthorne's "The Birthmark"?

Winx Joined Fri 08/31/07 Posts: 39051	Thu 01/15/09 10:23 AM
Her hands are normal to her.

lilith401 Joined Wed 10/31/07 Posts: 19593	Thu 01/15/09 10:24 AM
We are trained to see deviations from what we see as asthetically pleasing. Like breasts... We amplify things in our minds, and also seek out abberations. We might do this to see that others are not perfect, to make ourselves feel better, or merely because it is different. Who knows? No, never read the book. I find Hawthorne to be dry. Sorry...

Calleigh12 Joined Tue 04/01/08 Posts: 17193	Thu 01/15/09 10:29 AM
I attended a luncheon last with a group of people. Sitting across from was a very beautiful woman. She was charming and seemed to be intelligent. However, one of her hands was slightly smaller than the other and her fingers were gnarled and twisted inward. Nonetheless, she appeared to be able to use it just as she could her other hand. Instead of focusing on her beauty or intelligence, my eyes were drawn to her hand. I guess because I perceived it not to be normal. Why is that beauty or intelligence are overlooked because we think that something that is not "normal"? Has anyone ever read Nathaniel Hawthorne's "The Birthmark"? Yes, I've read it. Good story.

prisoner Joined Tue 01/06/09 Posts: 5129	Thu 01/15/09 10:34 AM
The only thing I have ever read by Hawthorne is House Of The Seven Gables but may i add that as a former bookstore manager one of my all time favorite bookstore pickup lines is..."Excuse me miss,care to go back to my place for a little Longfellow."...be seeing you

deke Joined Mon 12/29/08 Posts: 395	Thu 01/15/09 10:54 AM
haven't read the book but what is normal to one is a point of view

TBRich Joined Fri 11/07/08 Posts: 8232	Thu 01/15/09 10:55 AM
I bet there is at least of couple guys out there with a fetish for that sort of thing.

deke Joined Mon 12/29/08 Posts: 395	Thu 01/15/09 10:57 AM
I bet there is at least of couple guys out there with a fetish for that sort of thing. that is true creepy but true

quiet_2008 Joined Sat 08/30/08 Posts: 11138	Thu 01/15/09 10:57 AM
I like the Twilight Zone where they tried plastic surgery to save the "ugly" woman

Duffy Joined Sat 10/07/06 Posts: 3775	Thu 01/15/09 10:59 AM
Marley...the woman had a disability. her hand. and that is what u saw. however, u did say u noticed she was beautiful. does a knarled hand..which sounds like thalidimide the way u described it...make her less beautiful? or less of a woman? and to the woman that commented on something about our breasts, and how we perceive them...it might interest u to know that one of my breasts r smaller than the other one, but it does not affect my ability to type. and that is how i perceive my breast.

lilith401 Joined Wed 10/31/07 Posts: 19593	Thu 01/15/09 11:04 AM
Duffy.... I was actually thinking of Lily0923's breasts when I made that post!

Winx Joined Fri 08/31/07 Posts: 39051	Thu 01/15/09 11:06 AM
Duffy.... I was actually thinking of Lily0923's breasts when I made that post! Interesting.

deke Joined Mon 12/29/08 Posts: 395	Thu 01/15/09 11:09 AM
Marley...the woman had a disability. her hand. and that is what u saw. however, u did say u noticed she was beautiful. does a knarled hand..which sounds like thalidimide the way u described it...make her less beautiful? or less of a woman? and to the woman that commented on something about our breasts, and how we perceive them...it might interest u to know that one of my breasts r smaller than the other one, but it does not affect my ability to type. and that is how i perceive my breast. from what i've seen every woman has a different size breast or i have just found all the abnormal ones

Marley Joined Mon 10/02/06 Posts: 3922	Thu 01/15/09 11:11 AM
I like the Twilight Zone where they tried plastic surgery to save the "ugly" woman I remember that episode. I really loved that show.

lilith401 Joined Wed 10/31/07 Posts: 19593	Thu 01/15/09 11:11 AM
Duffy.... I was actually thinking of Lily0923's breasts when I made that post! Interesting. Winx, Duffy and lily have a history of talking about her breasts...

Winx Joined Fri 08/31/07 Posts: 39051	Thu 01/15/09 11:11 AM Edited by Winx on Thu 01/15/09 11:13 AM
Marley...the woman had a disability. her hand. and that is what u saw. however, u did say u noticed she was beautiful. does a knarled hand..which sounds like thalidimide the way u described it...make her less beautiful? or less of a woman? and to the woman that commented on something about our breasts, and how we perceive them...it might interest u to know that one of my breasts r smaller than the other one, but it does not affect my ability to type. and that is how i perceive my breast. from what i've seen every woman has a different size breast or i have just found all the abnormal ones It's true. The dominant hand is slightly larger then the other hand. Everybody has one foot slightly larger then the other foot. One breast is slightly or more larger then the other in women. It's most likely to be the side of the dominant hand.

Winx Joined Fri 08/31/07 Posts: 39051	Thu 01/15/09 11:12 AM
Duffy.... I was actually thinking of Lily0923's breasts when I made that post! Interesting. Winx, Duffy and lily have a history of talking about her breasts... I'm just messing with ya.

quiet_2008 Joined Sat 08/30/08 Posts: 11138	Thu 01/15/09 11:12 AM
Marley...the woman had a disability. her hand. and that is what u saw. however, u did say u noticed she was beautiful. does a knarled hand..which sounds like thalidimide the way u described it...make her less beautiful? or less of a woman? and to the woman that commented on something about our breasts, and how we perceive them...it might interest u to know that one of my breasts r smaller than the other one, but it does not affect my ability to type. and that is how i perceive my breast. from what i've seen every woman has a different size breast or i have just found all the abnormal ones most guys have a testicle that is smaller than the other hahaha made you look!

lilith401 Joined Wed 10/31/07 Posts: 19593	Thu 01/15/09 11:13 AM
Duffy.... I was actually thinking of Lily0923's breasts when I made that post! Interesting. Winx, Duffy and lily have a history of talking about her breasts... I'm just messing with ya. Whew.....

Winx Joined Fri 08/31/07 Posts: 39051	Thu 01/15/09 11:14 AM
Duffy.... I was actually thinking of Lily0923's breasts when I made that post! Interesting. Winx, Duffy and lily have a history of talking about her breasts... I'm just messing with ya. Whew..... It was too easy.