I know some guys in South Jersey.......


But they aint cheap.....

hmmmmmmmm will be thinking about that one.....lol

It never fails to astound me the depths of which others will sink to deceive or hurt others. Is it out of ignorance? Egocentrism? Selfishness? Apathy?

Truth is, Deb, we will never know. It is up to us to make our own truth and frame it up in a way that it makes sense to our sensibilities. To mourn the loss, well, that is your mourning and this "friend" has no part in that. As such, they should be given no power of you in any way. And that includes your hurt.

I remember well when I was jist jilted and I realized that nothing he said or did was real. Therefore, my hurt was not hurt over his lies, but rather at myself for falling for it. So I was not hurt or sad or missing him, but rather the whole thing was a farce. That took a few hours to wrap my head around... but his behavior afterwards confirmed it. He was not worth my time or my thoughts. Neither is your friend, it would seem.

cut your loses and start living everyday as it is your last

True Lilith except that this was just a friend so I thought....I think what makes it so hard is the heartlessness of the whole thing. I don't regret not one minute because at least I can go away knowing that what I did in the end was right on and he can kiss me where the sun don't shine.

Thanks guys really all of this helped a lot.

Ahh Deb, my situation was also a friend, or so I thought. I'd never get involved with someone I did not believe was my friend first.

Never question the cruelty of others, for that is like trying to rationalize the irrational mind.

I'm glad you're a bit better. We love you.

Word.

Sometimes folks just need a little time a lone.

Hi doll.....well that is what they will get no worries there.

could not have said it better myself...be seeing you

The only thing you can do is to be true to yourself. Realize that you will have friends who will betray your trust (which will undoubtedly put you on your guard) and that most of the people you know will NOT be there for you like you will for them, but stay true to who you are because of those few who WILL be there.

awwww Perry I think this is my favorite one by far.....How did you get so smart Mr. And thanks doll......and I just couldn't love you more Mr. Not to mention no one does whip cream and cherries better then you.

(((Deb))) I'm not sure what happened, but we're all here for you. How's your weekend shaping up?

Edit: And it's not brains, it's experience; been there done that lol

I guess the best way is to say that I had a light bulb moment on how one sided the friendship was....And so I called him on it.....and instead of apologizing for his nasty he just got nastier.....And so now it's the loss of someone I really cared about and someone who I went through a lot with....who can throw it away like that for what....STUBBORN PRIDE....Well dammit his loss.....

And I know Perry I have so so many amazing wonderful friends....and I love you all so very much, and I can honestly say that we are always there for each other....pretty darn amazing stuff...

Sh*t Debbie. Welcome to the world of internet dating. You are nursing a hurt just with friendship. Imagine that on a larger scale of romantic love as well. We deal with both at same time.

Ya .. welcome to OUR world dearest married friend of mine

And ya .. we're expected to jump back on the wagon and do it ALLLLLLLLL over again. Trust again. Have a completely open heart again.

Right.

How do you think I am able to be having the coversation with you this morning....drawing from this totally and another one that just happen yesterday.....it sucks...and your right if my heart hurts this much I can't even imagine when more feelings are involved..