Topic: Something Very Important.. Please Read..
daleray1606's photo
Tue 01/13/09 11:15 PM


If this isn't the right place for this please forgive me. I just think that it is very Important... Thank you


(No Joke) PLEASE READ, THEN PASS IT ON !!!


This is long but is good info for everyone.



Through a Rapist's Eyes (No Joke)
Please pass it along and share it with your children.

A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:

1) The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun, braid or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.

2) The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women who's clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around specifically to cut clothing.

3) They also look for women on their cell phone, searching through their purse, or doing other activities while walking because they are off-guard and can be easily overpowered.

4) Men are most likely to attack & rape in the early morning, between 5: 00 a.m.and 8:30a.m.

5) The number one place women are abducted from/attacked is grocery store parking lots. The number two: office parking lots/garages. Number three: public restrooms .

6) The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to another location where they don't have to worry about getting caught.

7) Only 2% said they carried weapons because rape carries a 3-5 year sentence but rape with a weapon is 15-20 years.

8) If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn't worth it because it will be time-consuming.

9) These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas, or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands .

Keys are NOT a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you're not worth it.

10) Several defense mechanisms he taught us are: If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question , like what time is it?, or make general small talk: ' I can't believe it is so cold out here ,' ' We're in for a bad winter.' Now you've seen their face and could identify them in a line-up; you lose appeal as a target.

11) If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you and yell STOP! Or STAY BACK! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they'd leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to fight back . Again, they are looking for an EASY target.

12) If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes), yell I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.

13) If someone grabs you, you can't beat them with strength but you can by outsmarting them . If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the Arm (between the elbow and armpit) OR in the upper inner thigh VERY VERY HARD . One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands - the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it - it hurts.

14) After the initial hit, always GO for the GROIN. I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy's parts it is extremely painful . You might think that you'll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble and he's out of there .

15) When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible . The instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.

16) Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don't dismiss it, go with your instincts!!!

You may feel a little silly at the time, but you'd feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.

1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do : The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do!

2. Learned this from a tourist guide in New Orleans : If a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM . Toss it away from you....chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than you, and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!

3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car, kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won't see you, but everybody else will. This has saved lives.

4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping, eating, working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc.) DON'T DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side, put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU GET INTO YOUR CAR, LOCK THE DOORS AND LEAVE.

a. If someone is in the car with a gun to your head DO NOT DRIVE OFF, repeat: DO NOT DRIVE OFF ! Instead gun the engine and speed into anything, wrecking the car. Your Air Bag will save you. If the person is in the back seat they will get the worst of it. As soon as the car crashes bail out and run. It is better than having them find your body in a remote location.

5 A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot or parking garage:

A.) Be aware: look around you, look into your car, at the passenger side floor, and in the back seat.

B.) If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.

C.) Look at the car parked on the driver's side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out.

IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)

6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot. This is especially true at NIGHT!)

7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times. And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN, preferably in a zigzag pattern!

8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP! It may get you raped or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well-educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked 'for help' into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.

9. Another Safety Point: Someone just told me that her friend heard a crying baby on her porch the night before last, and she called the police because it was late and she thought it was weird. The police told her 'Whatever you do, DO NOT open the door.'

The lady then said that it sounded like the baby had crawled near a window, and she was worried that it would crawl to the street and get run over. The policeman said, 'We already have a unit on the way, whatever you do, DO NOT open the door.' He told her that they think a serial killer has a baby's cry recorded and uses it to coax women out of their homes thinking that someone dropped off a baby. He said they have not verified it, but have had several calls by women saying that they hear baby's cries outside their doors when they're home alone at night.

Please pass this on and DO NOT open the door for a crying baby --- This should be taken seriously because the Crying Baby theory was mentioned on America's Most Wanted this past Saturday when they profiled the serial killer in Louisiana .

I'd like you to forward this to all the women you know. It may save a life. A candle is not dimmed by lighting another candle. I was going to send this to the ladies only, but guys, if you love your mothers, wives, sisters, daughters, etc., you may want to pass it onto them, as well.

catchme_ifucan's photo
Tue 01/13/09 11:18 PM
Thanks {{{Daleray}}}flowerforyou

daleray1606's photo
Tue 01/13/09 11:18 PM


Seriously Nobody posts anything hmmm

daleray1606's photo
Tue 01/13/09 11:21 PM

Thanks {{{Daleray}}}flowerforyou


Ty Catchme

MirrorMirror's photo
Tue 01/13/09 11:22 PM
:thumbsup: Thanks for the information:thumbsup:

Riding_Dubz's photo
Tue 01/13/09 11:23 PM
Good looking out on the ladies part props to you drinker drinks

no photo
Tue 01/13/09 11:23 PM
Another tip- tell the assailant that there's a cop "over there". When the buffoon looks away, deck the sunofa***** in the face with everything you've got. The harder and further back the assailant's head slams, the better.


no photo
Tue 01/13/09 11:23 PM



Seriously Nobody posts anything hmmm


sometimes it just takes a little while

LilOlMeFromSD's photo
Tue 01/13/09 11:30 PM
Been there. Five times in my life. Five different men and five different sets of circumstances. I have since learned (the hard way) how to keep myself "safe." Thank you for the post. I hope others will see it before they are forced to cope with the things I've been though.

no photo
Tue 01/13/09 11:32 PM
Excellent advice.

daleray1606's photo
Tue 01/13/09 11:38 PM

Been there. Five times in my life. Five different men and five different sets of circumstances. I have since learned (the hard way) how to keep myself "safe." Thank you for the post. I hope others will see it before they are forced to cope with the things I've been though.


I'm sorry you had to go through all of that. I also hope that others will see this and take it to heart...

zanne46's photo
Tue 01/13/09 11:41 PM
I read it and compreheded it loud and clear...

Some of these things I am aware of...

Others are a bit new...

Funny thing is..when I was in FL and at the hospital with my friends father....

The son was there also...

I was parked in the parking garage..it freaked me out when I had to go to my car..

So before it got dark and the hospital grownds were empty ..I moved my car..to a safer place....parking garages creeped me out to the point I couldn't breath from fear...

Point to be made the son was a COP.....and he didn;t even escort me to my car....nice cop....couldn't take care of me....but I was taking care of his dad.

I didn't even get the chance to ask him to go with me...he just split and didn't give a sh*t..

sad and shameful....

Thank you for all this info....

I am very careful..and don't go out shopping or many places early or at night...

only to moms or brothers or a friends house.

Call me paranoid....proud paranoya...

I'. to tiny and could be taken over...

but..I'd fight like hell....

eye balls are good too..:smile: :wink:

Thanks....best to you and your family and friends and to all woman and men who also get attacked....:heart: flowers

LilOlMeFromSD's photo
Tue 01/13/09 11:43 PM


Been there. Five times in my life. Five different men and five different sets of circumstances. I have since learned (the hard way) how to keep myself "safe." Thank you for the post. I hope others will see it before they are forced to cope with the things I've been though.


I'm sorry you had to go through all of that. I also hope that others will see this and take it to heart...


Well, ty but nobody should ever feel the need to apologize for an idiots actions...lol. I do appreciate the sentiment though and I also hope that the post educates many.

Winx's photo
Tue 01/13/09 11:46 PM
Thank you.flowerforyou

shadowprincessx's photo
Tue 01/13/09 11:58 PM
tnx so much!! happy

daleray1606's photo
Wed 01/14/09 12:01 AM


Well All Ya'll are quite Welcome.

I get seriously upset when I see a woman being treated poorly.

I just wanted to help is all.... blushing

PacificStar48's photo
Wed 01/14/09 12:38 AM
What I have learned in working with rape victims.

Never assume an employee, family member, or friends of your lover will not assault you.

Never assume a male is too old or too young to rape you.

Rape is not only a crime that males commit.

Never assume your girlfriends have got your back.

Do not assume you are safe in a hospital, clinic, or doctors waiting room.

Never leave a key outside your premises.

Do not leave duplicate keys laying around your "home". It is easy for people to swipe and even return your key and have 24/7 access.

Do not assume you are any safer where there are a lot of strangers near by. You can scream your head off but by the time someone acts the rape can be over.

And extreamly loud place is as dangerous as a quiet one.

Do not assume a co-worker will not rape you on the job site.

Do not assume a previous lover will not rape you.

Do not assume anyone is too drunk, stoned, or disabled to be a threat of rape.

Do not assume being pregnant will protect you from rape.

Do not assume being disabled will protect you.




keepthehope's photo
Wed 01/14/09 12:48 AM
I think we need to show this to our daughters as well, even maybe have a class on it.

daleray1606's photo
Wed 01/14/09 12:48 AM

I think we need to show this to our daughters as well, even maybe have a class on it.



Now that is a great Idea!!!