Finding true love can be a difficult task considering our dating pool may be limited or too wide. Some of us can handle long distance relationships or LDRs? My question for those of us willing or even desiring to have LDRs who does our dating etiquette alter from dating someone with your local area? I would like to hear peoples success and failed stories of LDRs. The rules they have placed within their lives when having a LDR. What approach do people take when considering a LDR?

I do not consider them.

Never again.

I did have a LDR sadly end this summer but I am still extremely open to them though I might not have said that two months ago.

What would you have done differently in those relationship if you could just simply erase them or never have them. What advice would you give to a couple that could possibly become the real thing, true love, and you were forbidden to tell them not to attempt having a LDR?

it's more a challenge considering you wont be seeing one another as much. if the two really want to try and make it work, then more power to them

I think the first decision you have to make, on your own, is whether or not it's feasible for you to move if it comes to that. If it's simply not possible for whatever reason, just don't do it. The other person may or may not be able to. Because, let's face it, ldr's are not really sustainable over a very long period of time.

If you decide to go for it, the 2nd thing is you need to know yourself very, very well and if you have any kind of trust or jealousy issues within yourself, ldr's will not work. You have to be able to place complete trust in a person and not question what they are doing when they are not with you. If you can't do that, again, don't bother. That doesn't mean THEY will be trustworthy (you hope they are) but if you are constantly going to question, get jealous etc then it most certainly is doomed to fail.

It takes a heap of trust. One of you must be willing to move to where the other person lives in a short period of time. My idea of a short period of time is less than a year. And visit each other as often as financally possible.
I am glad I went through a LDR once, but I will not do that again.

It is more challenging and it does become difficult from experience and the moment of truth when you finally meet how things may change between both or one of you can cast a cloud of fear over the relationship especailly when the couple makes the decision to meet and the date becomes closer. So how do you deal with it?

What happen with your LDR. I am happy to have had mine too although it ended. It was a life changing experience for me.

Good points!

Well, first off, you don't commit yourself until you've met in person. You might have the greatest chemistry over the phone and online but in person, nada. Yes, fear and nervousness are normal, and you are either willing to risk it or you are not. But the truth is in meeting face to face.

i cant say since the one i had never evolved to that, we talked about moving in together, but it fell short alas

We met in person, got along very well, and after a while, he changed his mind about moving and found someone in his town to be with.