To the end of the world and back!!

It also helps that I have nothing keeping me here.

Well stated

I went 4 1/2 hours to meet someone.

It took me 9 hours to get back since I got lost .. twice.

And a speeding ticket.

I would travel up to 20 miles to meet that special lady.

I drive thru East Islip twice a day, every day!!!!!





He feels the same way about meeting for lunch!!

For me, how far?????? 2,558 miles.....give or take a few feet, (not sure where in the house he is right now...)

That is quite limiting?

I was just goofing around. ive traveled up to 9 hours.

I'm only here for the cannoli. It's the best I've ever had.

LDRs can only work if one of the participants is in prison.

Hmmmm, the nearest prison is only 20 miles away... That may work. Good thinking CB

Everybody on the whole cell block was dancing to the jail house rock!

((((((((((((((((Connie))))))))))))))))))


You finally show up, and I have to leave in like 5 minutes

(((((MITCH)))))

I'd leave my state, mostly because it's so damn tiny.

But if I'm going more than an hour then she should be meeting me halfway. I'm not saying LDRs are easy, but both partners need to give.

It's good to see you. I have to go pick up my younger daughter from school, but I WANT TO TALK TO YOU LATER!!!!!

For me distance really isn't the issue. It is the ability to afford such a commitment. LDR's are not cheap by any means. Of course the intial meet would be an investment unto itself. Then if it was something we both wanted, I would do everything imagineable to keep the connection. Yes, one party would definetely need to think that relocation is going to be a major factor in the relationship's future. If both parties are so determined to remain where they are... the relationship has no hope of really progressing. Myself, I am pretty open minded about moving somewhere else, as long as the area I would be relocating to has some of the same scenery that I cannot live without. Mountains, lakes, rivers, trees... some open spaces. I would not consider moving to a large metropolitan area at all. Already tried it, and this girl was miserable the whole time. Of course I didn't make that move for love either, it was for work. So maybe love would have made it less miserable... who knows?

Because I have moved most of my adult life for jobs, and other reasons, I am not that intimidated by that idea. Most communities are not that radically different in the USA. I would probably be more concerned with the climate. I don't see me doing snow real well. But blooming where I am planted is probably my strong suite.

I don't think I worry as much about making a wrong turn and having to correct my course. Life is not a straight march forward and sometimes you learn a lot from side trips. Sometimes streaching and bending a way you don't often do makes you sore and sometimes it actually is fun. Usually either way it makes you stronger. It is a matter of degree; once it gets exhausting then I usually say enough.

What takes the fear out of an LDR is maybe it would not be easy but I can survive/thrive on my own pretty much anywhere so walking away from a bad partnership is a given. I tend to believe that makes most that would try to take advantage of another type of woman avoid me which doesn't break my heart. I also think it lets a partner be more of an equal rather than carrying a burden. I would never want someone to be with me only because he feels he has to.

I think with the computer you have so much opportunity to learn about a potential partner regardless of where they live that you can take a lot of the threat out of LDR if they cooperate and give you access. Someone who does not agree with that at the right level for the approriate time I would loose interest.

For most people travel for LDR's is a real barrier. If you are not dateing in person as frequently as you might together I would think the money you would save would cover it. Planning and creative thinking can over come many barriers. Traveling to also attend school or work is a favorite of mine. If I travel to meet someone it would be a dual purpose. The way to not feel ripped off in the developement of a relationship is to not sacrifice so much that you only feel used. That I feel interested in learning about someone I am attracted to is pretty good motivation for me. I have had the good fortune of having a good relationship so I can see a real value in working toward that.

I agree an LDR is excruciateing at one point, where you know this is the person you really want to be with, and if you are not ready to make the leap then save yourself and others the misery of starting in the first place.

Well I look at it this way (in my messed up logic). I would go to the ends of the earth and back for my daughters, but in their case I am bias. There are many reasons for an LDR to fail, but on the flip side of that, there are many reason it could succeed. As was said before commitment and communication is key, and that's the case in any relationship. Either way you go there is much to be gained from a "normal" relationship and and LDR. Even in failure there is much to be learned. There is always a bright side to everything.

I had 2 one in mastic beack and the other Patchoque I stay away from L.I. now

I live out here so it's convenient. However, I can sympathize.