In all honesty, I am one of the girls that the "Nice Guys Finish Last" thread posters complain about. I dated a very sweet, kind, thoughtful, Nice Guy for a very long time, and eventually dumped him because he was too "nice".

'Nice' is often a catch-all word for very real problems and issues. My Nice Guy would never argue with me, would never disagree with me, and would cave to all of my decisions without offering a real opinion. That, in turn, made me irritable, as he obviously didn't feel secure enough in our relationship or himself. I honestly, truly believe that I gave him no reason to feel this way.

I faced a lot of criticism when I broke up with Mr. Nice Guy, including self-criticism until I was able to really analyze the reasons behind leaving him. I don't regret leaving him, though I regret not being able to communicate well to him what the problem really was (it took me a little distance to clarify it).

I'm curious to know what people think a "Nice Guy" is. In my experience, it often means something comparable to a doormat. Don't get me wrong, I want someone who treats me with respect, but I want someone who will question me if he disagrees with me. It's boring to never be challenged.

Nice guy = Wuss. So yeah...you hit the nail right on the head.

My definition of " nice " is " Not a complete ass ".

oh a second nice guy thread
for the night wow

In fairness....a woman started this.

If it had been a dude......I would till I died.

here we go again.

Nice guy = jerk or butthurt

to the OP, dont be guilty over your actions. like you said, who wants a doormat right?

The whole nice guy thing is annoying personally. Every thread, except this one, annoys me. Gentleman... Being a nice guy is great but show some confidence and input!

I'm nice in that I'm polite. I also speak up against injustice though, so I'm hardly a wuss.

Nor do I finish last ... unless we are competing to see who can rebuild a 350 small block the fastest.

What does this make me?

well I give it that much,it was a woman who started it

Women want a dude with a nice, big, strong, hard.......(Goof gets censored as we go to commercial.)

Alisha is hot. Mindy is not.




NUFF SAID.

I actually started this in reaction to the "Nice Guy" threads. I find the whining annoying. These guys seem to think that because they are 'nice', there was no valid issue in the relationship worth breaking up over.

I'm honestly curious as to what they think is so 'nice' about them. Their definition of 'nice', as pertaining to a relationship, seems very different from mine.

thanks babe.

Thanks, MissPharry. I'm glad for the "except this one"! My point was really about how much these threads annoy me.

the "nice guy" threads around here usually have the whiners claiming to be the victim, victim complex basically. we all have our varying views regarding relationships

I am a victim

I consider myself a nice guy... but I have my opinions and will stand for what I believe in.

I think what makes me a nice guy is the fact that I don't believe in hitting women (during sex doesn't count), I do not cheat and get along with most of the people.

Just a copy paste from the "other" nice guy thread. Might have to keep this around so i don't have to type it everytime:

Nice guys hmm?
Lets be honest here, there is a fine line between being nice and being a push over. Self proclaimed "Nice guys" tend to let anyone and everyone walk all over them. Who the hell would want to be with someone that rolls on command? You accept people crapping on you and never stand up and fight back.

As far as a nice guy lacking confidence, not always true. What i do find however is noone wants to be with a weak person. Mentally weak people tend to give nothing back in a relationship and drain all the energy out of the other person. I consider myself a nice guy yet would still knock the crap out of someone that crosses the line.

So for all those nice guys out there.. be nice, not weak. There is a difference.