it actually is a lifetime!, so what happened?

the prototype of woman that you are looking for would be able to make you happy and she won't hurt you? if you are looking for her, and you know she is not here, why are on a dating website? isn't time valuable for you?

I disagree:

I think you have to be happy with you before you get involved with another.

They cannot make you happy only compliment you.

With my ex for 20 years myself.
I would not do the marrage thing again right now, anyways.

Friendship anlong with companionship is all that is on my aggenda for now.

There's a lot more to it than that....being hurt isn't even the issue, it's more about being bored to death, or being with someone whose entire agenda is to change me into a completely different person.



There are plenty of reasons to be here other than to look for a date.

Time? -- I was in a car wreck a few weeks ago, and I am not able to do much at the moment. Not like I'm going to be out running around looking for someone in the real world for awhile....

Tried stepping in the hot coals once.. now I choose to just dance around the bonfire....

when in a relationship there is a guy who is abbusive, there is a woman willing to be in that sick relationship

Ditto!

i've a question why do u call yourself love the Lord?

so, you just rather being I a no legalized relationship o nor living again with somebody? do u believe u could fall in love again?

Why marry when both of u can live in a defacto relationship and avoid the divorce proceedings later, just pack and go. says never married

isn't that defacto relationship called lack of commitment? 'cause you can walk out of the relationship anytime

Needing to fly together takes two...just like mated birds.

What's holding anyone back from becoming "us" is unique to each person. If somebody wants to fly with you, check the carry-on baggage.

Fly united!

marriage is not a bad thing if your @ work..it's when you have to go home!!!

You are totally right, it takes two for mated birds/two committed people to work out a relationship and marriage, it takes just one of the two to ruin the marriage if that person just thinks about his/herself.

Thats cute.

Fear of being hurt again and honestly im not sure because im still willing and still looking and yet im still waiting to find someone to connect with someone to share things with someone to confide in.

I was married for 18 yrs and I'm not really looking to marry again and yes I think it's the fear of being hurt again
so I figured I'll check out single life for a while and see what that has to offer

Been with mine for 25 years... till now.

Where purpose is not known . Abuse is enviable .... Any man or woman that does not know there created purpose & roles in life will make some very bad choices in life causing them usually to become fearful and or bitter. The next woman I marry will have personal vision for her life and a corporate vision for our marriage ... Proverbs 29:18 says ... Where there is no revelation . There is no hope ...

The partner we choose in marriage usually symbolises something that we ourselves lack. Once the illusion that what someone else has cannot satisfy us is broken, troubles begin. Or, living together in harmony for sometime the husband and wife gain from each other what they had initially lacked, and thus outgrow each others'"needs"(or "love", if you like).

There are only two ways a man and woman can remain happily married. The first is sacrifice of personal growth even after outgrowing each others' needs for old time's sake. This isn't very true happiness, indeed. The second is accomplishing the fine and difficult task of keep growing together - once one sets of needs are outgrown, delving deep within to discover the next set, and keep on doing so synchronously till all lust is transformed to love.

(Many couples take the easier path of changing partners as every set of needs is exhausted. This may assure professional growth if they can convince their conscience of the step being moral, but sure puts them down emotionally. The test is to live it out with a single partner for holistic growth. That is why marriage as an institution still survives, despite all adultery.)

This state is a perpetually satisfied feeling in the heart and body when the presence of a member of the opposite sex ceases to excite us in the way it used to, yet we relish the company in a deeper, more comprehensive and more joyous fashion. This is not repression, but the sublimation of the sexual instinct into love. Sex may happen, but it is totally under our control and with our discretion.

Lust like love is universal. We can only delude ourselves thinking we have lust only for our respective spouses. So until we learn the art of sublimating our lust into love, marriage cannot have strict "honesty" and once we attain the state of love, marriage becomes redundant.

hi me harris.