As most of you know I have recently started seeing somebody. I am am very happy with him. I mean my winter break from school seemed almost magical. He is the most sweetest, kindest, lovingest person I have ever met. I feel safe when I am around him. But winter break is over, I am now back in school full time, and with me working five nights of the week, the only time I have available really is Friday and Saturday nights, and even then it is only after I am done work, but by then he is ready for bed, as he has to be back at the shop early the next day. So really no time.

Should I give up happiness and just conentrate on my schooling, and work?

You should put school first and if this guy likes you he will understand

Is it happiness your givin up (((((whisper))))
or
Is it just living in the day?

I for one, am still in "holiday mode" and dislike the "routine" of day to day more that usual these days.

Have you talked to him about it?

I just texted him. Waiting for a response. I know that right now, he is driving and will not touch his phone while he is driving.

You know that is something i thought about, but really do not think it is just living in the day.

If you two feel the same for each other with some work you can see it through

Don't ever give up on happiness Whisper....simply work on the things that are keeping you apart...school and work are both important but hopefully the tow of you can come up with a solution

I feel that's a person to person conversation or at the very least on the phone.

Will you miss him much if you don't see him?

Then me thinks the fact your asking the question, means you got some "tweeks" that need to be resolved.

Question is, are they tweeks about you and your future, or something about this "sweetest, kindest, lovingest person" that just doesn't "sit" right?

what is the question exactly???? Millions of people go to school and work AND have relationships.

except me........Im a hermit!!!

shaaaaaaaaaaaaaadap ddn!!!

why does there have to be any ultimatum? just play it by ear, for life is like that.

If you give up your personal dreams and aspirations you will resent him later. It is important for you to do what you need to do for you. If this "thing" is meant to be more it will grow into more regardless to both of you doing what needs to be done in each of your lives.

I know that losts of people work through time issuse, me I have never been much of a multi tasker, 17 hour long days are a killer and really do not leave much room for much else.

I do not know why I am making excuses, of course I like him, I can not stop thinking about him, he is constently on my mind.

I am not sure what the problem even is. Why am I even questioning happiness? I guess maybe because I have never been treated the way he treats me. i don't know. I think now I am just ramballing on here. Trying to sound practical? I don't know really I don't. I thought that I hade everything in order in my life, guess I was wrong....lol.

My Mom used to say "be careful what we ask for,,we might get it"

I've come to understand, we never really know how our lives will be affected

it'll all "balance" out.

And by the way,,,your a smart hard working girl,,thats what seems to remain consistent

No one can decide for you. If it was me, today? Yes, I would give up the relationship. They come and go. Its uncertain. An education earned and ability to work brings far more personal security, serenity, and contentment in the face of adversity. Why doesn't self improvement and achievement equal happiness for you?

That might be an option.