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Topic: Desperately Seeking
LexFonteyne Joined Thu 12/07/06 Posts: 32131	Thu 01/01/09 04:18 PM
Lex, I think you are on to something. Nobody takes thing at face value anymore. I would like to know what some of these ladies are looking for with out the "try to figure out what I'm saying game" . Why does that need to be the way it is done. Not all are that way but it happens a lot. Well, it's pretty much an epidemic. Most people are so afraid of being perceived as "shallow" that they refuse to say anything other than the standard boilerplate PC drivel about "looks don't matter" and "what's important is on the inside" and "I just want someone decent." But if any of that was actually true, we would be having matches all over the place here. The reason we don't is because the people making these claims are being totally disingenuous. They really DON'T want someone without the looks, money, status, whatever, but it just isn't acceptable to say that -- so they pretend that they adhere to the PC agenda, but they don't talk to anybody except the ones who appeal to the covert "shallow" side of them. It's really just a failure on the part of some to be honest -- with themselves and with others.

Moondark Joined Tue 11/27/07 Posts: 5866	Thu 01/01/09 04:19 PM
Look at what you titled the thread. If you come of as desperate, it tends to be a turn-off and people just are not interested.

SitkaRains Joined Thu 10/09/08 Posts: 17228	Thu 01/01/09 05:08 PM
Lex, I think you are on to something. Nobody takes thing at face value anymore. I would like to know what some of these ladies are looking for with out the "try to figure out what I'm saying game" . Why does that need to be the way it is done. Not all are that way but it happens a lot. Well, it's pretty much an epidemic. Most people are so afraid of being perceived as "shallow" that they refuse to say anything other than the standard boilerplate PC drivel about "looks don't matter" and "what's important is on the inside" and "I just want someone decent." But if any of that was actually true, we would be having matches all over the place here. The reason we don't is because the people making these claims are being totally disingenuous. They really DON'T want someone without the looks, money, status, whatever, but it just isn't acceptable to say that -- so they pretend that they adhere to the PC agenda, but they don't talk to anybody except the ones who appeal to the covert "shallow" side of them. It's really just a failure on the part of some to be honest -- with themselves and with others. While I believe that what you say here has merit the problem is when there is someone out here that says what they mean and mean what they say. People are so jaded by the politically correct "Sheeple" that they don't give the honest ones a chance. I, myself have chosen to project what I am, and I will be authentic unto myself way before I will never cow down to someone and not be who I am. I have done that once and I lost myself I refuse to ever do that again. I have also always looked at what is inside. They have to be able to stimulate my mind, make me laugh, be my best friend before anything else is going to happen. I have dated the Trophy eye candy men and frankly they have to work a lot harder for me to even give them a second look. I know I have the last year not really paid attention to pictures on profiles. I pay attention to what a person says. When and if I am ready to meet then I request a webcam session so see who I am meeting. Some of my best dates have been with Shadow's that is one of things I like about Mingles you are allowed to use Avatars here. Sorry not a bash just my opinion. strange to be disagreeing with you I usually always agree with what you post

trm3177 Joined Sun 07/08/07 Posts: 14	Thu 01/01/09 07:33 PM
a nice guy thread........you really shouldnt have!!!! Says the D*he Bag with pics of his abs... Lets start a chant for this guy "Dhe, Dhe , Dhe, D**he,........."

buttons Joined Mon 11/06/06 Posts: 25783	Thu 01/01/09 07:40 PM
...a partner! Ladies, I am really frustrated with the way some of you claim to be single and searching for that nice guy, but when a nice guy try and approach you you rebel were u claiming to be desperate?

Roamer66 Joined Wed 12/24/08 Posts: 169	Thu 01/01/09 07:43 PM
...a partner! Ladies, I am really frustrated with the way some of you claim to be single and searching for that nice guy, but when a nice guy try and approach you you rebel were u claiming to be desperate? not at ALL...I was speaking in general!

buttons Joined Mon 11/06/06 Posts: 25783	Thu 01/01/09 07:44 PM
it might be the "desperation"... i post and then read answers for i have a mind of my own but dang now that is appealing

tanyaann Joined Mon 12/03/07 Posts: 32220	Thu 01/01/09 07:48 PM
If you are desparately seeking a relationship, you will end up in a desparate relationship. Sit back relax! Have fun! And when its time the right one will come along!

dolphin14 Joined Tue 01/22/08 Posts: 1123	Thu 01/01/09 07:51 PM
You've been on this site a week and you're frustrated already? I'm thinking patience, networking, and developing friendships are not your strong suits.... Just a guess whatever happen to just asking someone on a date and they say yes....I guess now you have to network, submit a request, and wait for approval from the IRS? Ok, just becuz a girl says she is looking for someone doesn't mean that u maybe the one for them. Just cuz u are attracted to them doesn't mean they are attracted to u. Different strokes for different folks. When the right one comes along u will know it. U push and u will chase em all away.

OrangeCat Joined Tue 10/23/07 Posts: 76874	Thu 01/01/09 07:53 PM
I am Desperately Seeking my rock

RacerMatt Joined Mon 12/15/08 Posts: 722	Thu 01/01/09 08:00 PM
Dude, have patience... and never EVER start a thread titled "desparately seeking". Just be yourself, have fun, and you will find her or she will find you. It worked for me, and if I can pull it off, anyone can. Trust me on that one.

MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Thu 01/01/09 08:01 PM
...a partner! Ladies, I am really frustrated with the way some of you claim to be single and searching for that nice guy, but when a nice guy try and approach you you rebel Meet me at a motel room

alonenotlonely Joined Thu 01/03/08 Posts: 2957	Thu 01/01/09 08:03 PM
After two years of pseudo-intensive research, I have determined that most of the women here are actually using some sort of arcane code in their posts and profiles. What you think you are reading is NOT what they are actually saying. For example, "I am looking for a nice guy who is caring and supportive and has the same interests I have" actually means "I am looking for a violent drunken loser with a broken down 1976 Buick Skyhawk and no job but it's OK as long as he's rich and looks exactly like Johnny Depp." Yes, I have broken the code. Your next book will be made into a movie!!!!!!!

alonenotlonely Joined Thu 01/03/08 Posts: 2957	Thu 01/01/09 08:04 PM
Lex, I think you are on to something. Nobody takes thing at face value anymore. I would like to know what some of these ladies are looking for with out the "try to figure out what I'm saying game" . Why does that need to be the way it is done. Not all are that way but it happens a lot. Well, it's pretty much an epidemic. Most people are so afraid of being perceived as "shallow" that they refuse to say anything other than the standard boilerplate PC drivel about "looks don't matter" and "what's important is on the inside" and "I just want someone decent." But if any of that was actually true, we would be having matches all over the place here. The reason we don't is because the people making these claims are being totally disingenuous. They really DON'T want someone without the looks, money, status, whatever, but it just isn't acceptable to say that -- so they pretend that they adhere to the PC agenda, but they don't talk to anybody except the ones who appeal to the covert "shallow" side of them. It's really just a failure on the part of some to be honest -- with themselves and with others. Praise God! Someone said it!!!

RacerMatt Joined Mon 12/15/08 Posts: 722	Thu 01/01/09 08:08 PM
Lex, I think you are on to something. Nobody takes thing at face value anymore. I would like to know what some of these ladies are looking for with out the "try to figure out what I'm saying game" . Why does that need to be the way it is done. Not all are that way but it happens a lot. Well, it's pretty much an epidemic. Most people are so afraid of being perceived as "shallow" that they refuse to say anything other than the standard boilerplate PC drivel about "looks don't matter" and "what's important is on the inside" and "I just want someone decent." But if any of that was actually true, we would be having matches all over the place here. The reason we don't is because the people making these claims are being totally disingenuous. They really DON'T want someone without the looks, money, status, whatever, but it just isn't acceptable to say that -- so they pretend that they adhere to the PC agenda, but they don't talk to anybody except the ones who appeal to the covert "shallow" side of them. It's really just a failure on the part of some to be honest -- with themselves and with others. I found the woman of my dreams, and all I had on my profile was "I'm just taking a look around, seeing what it's all about"

evilpoetess Joined Tue 08/26/08 Posts: 53	Thu 01/01/09 08:12 PM
I was not aware that if a woman was single that meant she was obligated to date any guy who decided to ask her out. OP, thanks for clearing that up for me.

SweetnFunny Joined Sat 11/01/08 Posts: 687	Thu 01/01/09 08:42 PM
You've been on this site a week and you're frustrated already? I'm thinking patience, networking, and developing friendships are not your strong suits.... Just a guess whatever happen to just asking someone on a date and they say yes....I guess now you have to network, submit a request, and wait for approval from the IRS? Don't forget to submit it in triplicate. Give it time. You'll find someone.

SweetnFunny Joined Sat 11/01/08 Posts: 687	Thu 01/01/09 08:44 PM
Lex, I think you are on to something. Nobody takes thing at face value anymore. I would like to know what some of these ladies are looking for with out the "try to figure out what I'm saying game" . Why does that need to be the way it is done. Not all are that way but it happens a lot. Well, it's pretty much an epidemic. Most people are so afraid of being perceived as "shallow" that they refuse to say anything other than the standard boilerplate PC drivel about "looks don't matter" and "what's important is on the inside" and "I just want someone decent." But if any of that was actually true, we would be having matches all over the place here. The reason we don't is because the people making these claims are being totally disingenuous. They really DON'T want someone without the looks, money, status, whatever, but it just isn't acceptable to say that -- so they pretend that they adhere to the PC agenda, but they don't talk to anybody except the ones who appeal to the covert "shallow" side of them. It's really just a failure on the part of some to be honest -- with themselves and with others. While I believe that what you say here has merit the problem is when there is someone out here that says what they mean and mean what they say. People are so jaded by the politically correct "Sheeple" that they don't give the honest ones a chance. I, myself have chosen to project what I am, and I will be authentic unto myself way before I will never cow down to someone and not be who I am. I have done that once and I lost myself I refuse to ever do that again. I have also always looked at what is inside. They have to be able to stimulate my mind, make me laugh, be my best friend before anything else is going to happen. I have dated the Trophy eye candy men and frankly they have to work a lot harder for me to even give them a second look. I know I have the last year not really paid attention to pictures on profiles. I pay attention to what a person says. When and if I am ready to meet then I request a webcam session so see who I am meeting. Some of my best dates have been with Shadow's that is one of things I like about Mingles you are allowed to use Avatars here. Sorry not a bash just my opinion. strange to be disagreeing with you I usually always agree with what you post Well said.

JustAGuy2112 Joined Sun 12/16/07 Posts: 18033	Thu 01/01/09 08:51 PM
Lex, I think you are on to something. Nobody takes thing at face value anymore. I would like to know what some of these ladies are looking for with out the "try to figure out what I'm saying game" . Why does that need to be the way it is done. Not all are that way but it happens a lot. Well, it's pretty much an epidemic. Most people are so afraid of being perceived as "shallow" that they refuse to say anything other than the standard boilerplate PC drivel about "looks don't matter" and "what's important is on the inside" and "I just want someone decent." But if any of that was actually true, we would be having matches all over the place here. The reason we don't is because the people making these claims are being totally disingenuous. They really DON'T want someone without the looks, money, status, whatever, but it just isn't acceptable to say that -- so they pretend that they adhere to the PC agenda, but they don't talk to anybody except the ones who appeal to the covert "shallow" side of them. It's really just a failure on the part of some to be honest -- with themselves and with others. Praise God! Someone said it!!! Ummm..I have been saying this for quite a while. Lex just used better words....lmao

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Thu 01/01/09 08:53 PM
I was not aware that if a woman was single that meant she was obligated to date any guy who decided to ask her out. OP, thanks for clearing that up for me. Oh, is that how it works? They ask us out and we're just supposed to say yes no matter what?