My husband just recently asked me for a divorce. We have a 3 yr old little girl, and this is a shock. He has been living out of town for almost a year anyway, so really, what's the difference. Just kinda looking for someone who may know what I am going through who I can talk to.

I didn't have any children, but my wife cheated on me (without my knowledge) and divorced me. It was at a time when I really needed her help. (In college, but been unemployed for around a year.) Haven't had time outside of school to work even if I could find a job, which I can not. So, basically, I needed her more now than ever in my life, and she picks that time to leave me. (and take half the money.) It really came out of left field. Granted, my WoW addiction had gotten a bit bad, but I was at least making an effort to ask what was wrong. (I could tell something was up, but never expected divorce, as she knew how strongly I felt about it. my parents divorced, i swore not to, and then had to anyway.)

I know what you are going though. Out of no where my wife of 9 years asked for divorce. She gave me the house the new truck and our two girls (ages 7 and 9). she moved an hour away with her new boyfriend. I never saw it coming. Let me see if any of this makes any sense to you. You feel alone and lost, dont want to eat, cant sleep. You feel like a part of you is missing. Everytime You think you can handle this you speck or see the other person and you feel like you are back to the start of all the feelings. You love them and want them back and cant seem to move forward. you want to know what happend and the answers you get from them just aint enuf. If any of this makes sense and you would loike to talk just hit me up!

i cant relate. but im sorry.

its tough going through something like that i can imagine. but over time you will heal and become a stronger person.

just keep your head up.

I want to tell you thank you for such kind and caring responses. Redneck29 you hit the nail on the head! But I had someone contact me through this site that is also going through it, and he is a pure blessing. I am healing. I am not blaming myself so much. And I am actually helping someone else too. Things will and are already getting better day by day. I thank all of you again. I, like casuality, went throught divorce as a child, and never wanted that for myself, but no one ever does. I have always been strong, and I paniced when I was broken. Each day and each conversation with my new friend brings healing. Those of you who are also going through this. Don't give up. Someone/something higher is at work in your life. Though it's not on our terms and we may not understand, it all has a purpose.

The day before Thanksgiving my wife decided she was never ready to be married and that she never really loved me. Together we have a 15 month old son. I have no idea what the hell to do. She acts as if it isn't a big deal and brushes it off, as if the past 2yrs of marriage, or I, never happened.

I have realized the liberation of this. I know you are lost, but just think...you can do exactly whatever you want to do. You can eat what you want to, talk to who you want to, listen to whatever kind of music you want to, etc. You have to decide what makes you happy and work towards that. Set your own goals and follow through. You don't have to check with her to see if it's okay. She didn't check with you about her choice. Keep looking foward, not back. There is a higher power at work in your life. You are meant to do something great, we all are.