Okay

1 people who cannot or chose not to utilize the English language in a coherent fashion....(no names, nondisclosure)

2 wanting something simple...its like waiting for something to fall into your lap, or not wanting to exert any effort at all.... I don't want simple I want stimulating, someone who excites passion and interest...most relationships are not simple they have depth and character and complexity....what on earth is wrong with that?

people who can't form a coherent sentence or punctuate or spell correctly should be dragged out and shot









not really but I thought I would set off the grammar/spelling argument all over again

Relationships shouldn't be complex and should remain simple. Why add something that isn't needed in the first place. A lot of people tend to make things more difficult then it should be. Sure, there is plenty of excitement that is needed. Relationships become tiresome as time goes on. Can't add something in which there never was.

Is it me or does it seem like something was left out, because I am still looking for .....and ? ? ?

People who expect everything from a relationship... Will find it boring really quick. Admittedly, new thing everyday is great! But people have habits...people rarly change. Learn to love for thier habits and who they are, And it's never boring.

YA ~and never settle

Yet.. you can't have it all

True.... Unfortunately, one eventually HAS to just settle. I mean...I'm not going to run around on a 4-wheeler in a different place every day for the rest of my life... or boat in a new place everytime I can... Sometimes,you just got to sit on your ass, and f*ckin enjoy it.

okay, people change, grow, and develop all the time that is why maintaining a relationship is difficult...you have to grow with the person and not apart....relationships need complexity..to be full and complete it is that complexity and dynamic which allows for the simplicity of it all..and you don't have to settle, that means you give up and strive for nothing be it continuing a relationship or finding someone to be in a relationship with, thank you though for your opinions..

Some of us...lost time to maintain the relationship...it has happened several times to me.

But any of my relationships ....are now friends. Because I do not hate. It's a waste of my time...

Goes with the territory, though. For me, it breaks down very simply to "Do you care enough to ensure that what you're trying to say is clear and comprehensible?" If not, OK, I'm not going to waste my time trying to decipher it.



But isn't this entire culture now built upon the idea of "immediate gratification"? Anything worth having, I want RIGHT NOW!

As for exerting effort -- I think there's a parallel to your first point here. Effort is hard -- whether it's the effort involved in trying to meet someone or the effort involved in trying to make a point that people can actually understand. Effort to meet someone? Better to sit down and wait -- hence the "laid back and easy going" in every dating site profile in the world.

probably more insightful than most could have offered but I guess I fall under the school of delayed gratification...instant may be fun but its worth more if you care enough to put in the effort, the question is not really whether I will find someone, but will I find someone worth the effort for me. I word it that way because something completely worthwhile may not be for me....thank you

For some I suspect that wanting a simple relationship is a backlash against a previous relationship that was filled with drama and negative complexity.

For example, after having a difficult breakup with a person who sometimes used her child to manipulate me, I did not want to date another person with a child right away. It was not that I thought all women with children were like my ex, but rather, I just did not want to deal with the complications of another relationship of that type.

There is a decided difference between "what I want" as a universal, and "what I would like at this precise moment" -- for me, anyway, given the fact that distractions and diversions occur all the time.

The whole concept of deferred gratification is anathema to most -- and it shows itself in any number of ways -- there is a reason why the "knee-jerk reaction" was given that title....

I never considered the "in the moment" at the time I posted....


I still maintain that the gratification is better if you are made to work for it....you appreciate it more....

the occasional quickie however....deserves some of the credit its given