So here is my problem. I meet a lot of women, a lot of women approach me. They do this because I have a dog, they love my dog and it's like a magnet. Now I know that talking with all of the women is impossible sometimes not even pheasable. However, I would like to move past the initial part of hi *bends down to pet dog as I stare at their breasts* what's your dog's name... Answer she's really cute.. answer yeah she is or so... I might get to ask what is your name? Now comes their friend who doesn't want her friend to pet dog or move along now... How do I stop that? Or before she goes away because she clearly had enough balls to stop and talk before all of a sudden it hits her maybe she's uncomfortable *most of the women I like are rather young probably between 18-23* how I do elongate the conversation? It happens so fast, so frequent, and so often that I actually lose track of how many names I get in a night. I've tried a very few times to get a number to no avail but I'd also like to move on in the conversation or at least make it longer than 20-50 seconds or so. I am not granted with a huge amount of time but I know this. If I was a total creep to them they wouldn't approach my dog. I also know that if they were afraid or insecure or even shy they wouldn't talk to me.

Here's another example as well. I took my dog to a dog park for the very first time. A beautiful girl came over to me *mind you my dog is off leash and she's wandering around and I do like to watch her because she could potentially get injured by another dog.* It's kind of like watching your kid on a playground. ANyway, she invited me to a dog park she frequently visits because she never comes to this one. I'm thinking total hit on must bring dog to other park but then again maybe this isn't true? I honestly don't know.

It's really wierd around certain people I become extremely comfortable but when on the spot in public I become really shy like not myself and for some reason I can't take off the shock collar get up the nerve to speak or hit on back. I'm getting better I think but not good enough. Sometimes I don't even get to say any words because I'm just in awe of how beautiful the girl is that approaches me and before I know it they're on the move.

For the mother type friend that comes up...you can always try a backhanded compliment with a smile, or something I like to use, "woah lady! quit screaming at me, your friend just wanted to look at my dog..." say it with a coyish smile and a little bit of cockyness, just don't over do it, and a little sarcasm helps too....something else you can do is once the friend comes over, engage her in conversation, get her talking to you in a friendly manner and you can probably get them both to hang around long enough to snag a number...

as far as taking your dog to another park...the world is your park man...go where you please...if the girl who invited you isn't there...sounds like you have no problem meeting new women so...run with it...hope this helps man.

wow......i live in a natl park, and i'm lucky to see a woman walking by once a month...in summer. in winter, once in three months, lol.


and they're scary looking, like the movie, misery.

When I go out for an entire day, I meet close to 500 people. I go home with no number and a bunch of names that I've forgotten.

and a turd in a santa hat isn't scary?

Look...when the chick walks up, let the dog off the leash "accidently" and hopefully she'll help you catch him...then ask her for her number "in case he gets loose again"
I'd fall for that in a hot second

hang a sign around the dogs neck that says [will you give my master your number he is too shy to ask]

That would be too awesome to resist

show them your weiner dog ...

Maybe I'll have to give that a try.

Of course, that would involve actually walking my dog where other people ( women ) walk theirs.....lmao

I live in a town of 2000 people. I already know most of the people here...lol

Thats a great idea might try that one if I ever get a dog.

Hand her a business card with it printed on it: "Or you could email me. I would like to hear from a pretty girl like you and if you tell me your name I know I will remember you. (Don't be stupid write what she tells you down with date and time and a non sexual note about her. Brand of her shoes, team logo on her jacket, hair barret, class ring. When you get home put her in your date book. It impresses the heck out of people if you can tell them when you first met.) You get a number move on. Women tend to wear the colors they like. Note it an follow up later.

I have almost the same problem, if she is a girl that I know I can have, I can say anything in the world, but if it is one that I would really like to have, then I just become mute. The best success I have ever had was when I basically said f it, and talked like she was just any girl, I ended up getting married to one of the hottest girls in my whole state. The key is, most hot chicks rarely even get talked to, much less hit on, because nobody has that big of brass ones to pull it off...

print some cards and give them one and let them know they can set an appointment to see the dog again in the future

let me know if it works

Ok so I failed again tonight.

I am not shy, that's not my problem. My problem is I can't seem to find the correct words to seal the deal.

Example of me not shy. 3 hot girls at gas station, I pull up because they're hot. I get out turn off the music and ask them where things are *because honestly I don't know.* They invited me to a club sorta and I followed them. *freakin awesome* totally never sealed the deal with any of them. Then I walked around, found some band members, asked for more stuff of course band members had girlfriends, and then approached by more girls with guys so I don't hit on them, and then I go back to that club. Find out it's a bar and a coffee shop and the dog is welcome outside. Ashtrays, plus bar, plus coffee=best place in the world+ dog :). So I found my calling in a brand new city. Then I totally bombed because the girl was hot... This one girl had to scream from across the entire place to get my attention. She was freakin gorgeous. As for remembering what people wear this is very easy. She had on a top that didn't show cleavage well at least not to normal guys. I'm a special guy though so when they bend over I'm totally looking down. Of course I see everything as usual. However, when standing straight up, you couldn't see any. Anyway, she had on really really short short that were white and see through. Tan legs and skinny as can be. I really dug her but I never even got her name. We talked for about 10 minutes, I even learned where she lived but I couldn't seal the deal.

As for walking around with a sign on my dog. Yeah I don't know if that would start to have negative effects on people approaching me. You must understand I go out for 1 hour and I get approached by anywhere from 30-100 people inside of that hour time span. I've had people run off of roofs across the street just to meet me and my dog and yet I can't seal the deal. I'm horrible at this.

As for hot girls not being approached. I do believe this is true however, I'm not approaching said hot girl where I have taken the courage lesson. They approach me immediately upon seeing me. There is no time to take to catch my breath and go ok this one is ****ing hot time to seal the deal pre plan what to say etc... Nope it's spontaneous spur of the moment conversation and I think that's what kills me. If I had like 30 seconds to look at them and then make my move towards them everything would be awesome. I have like 10 seconds at most to start talking. It's horrible :(. I don't know how to fix it.

I don't know if other people have the same luck as me.

As for walking around with 2,000 people in a town, you're wasting your time. You will walk more and meet less. You must bring dog to social atmosphere where people are gathered. I'm an expert at this. However, your dog must be able to be ok with this. I don't recommend what I do because you must train your dog to be sociable around EVERYONE! I don't care what ethnicity, I don't care if they're bums or thugs, your dog must behave at all times. If it misbehaves you will have extreme problems. See my dog is trained to be around over 5,000 people at once. I introduced her at a very very very young age to people and pets. Remember it's not just people, there might be other dogs, there might be distractions. Your dog can't be fearful of people. It can't bark or cause loud disturbances. It can not just go to the bathroom whenever it feels like. It must be trained. On top of this, your dog must be approachable and lovable. I'd say out of 2,000 people who see me and my dog 1,950 will say something 50 will totally ignore. Out of those 2,000 congregated 500-700 will approach, 75 will run away or get rude with some crazy comment like *you better hold your dog, yo that mother****a better not bite me or I will **** you up, etc.*

Tonight I only met about 50 people on the street in one hour time and maybe 40 by vehicle. I'm extremely hard to miss with the co-pilot and the top down doing tricks and waving at people and girls blowing kisses and the dog chillin. I just suck at getting past the initial part. I also tend to think the girls may not even be interested in me because I've had so many experiences failing. It's starting to really bug me and I don't know how to fix it.

I've really thought about this before like instead of trying to speak to these girls just hand them my number but uhm nope never got the balls to do it. Plus again I think I would have a real problem if the cards started slipping up and getting handed to different people and then I would really be freaked out. I don't know if I could just hand random strangers my number especially the multitudes of people that approach me. If I was only approached by like 5 people a day I'd be alright but like for example at the last place I lived, I would walk outside of my apartment to an all girls college parking lot. Almost every single girl at that college knew my dog's name and if I did the card thing that would get around so quickly... I just don't want to ruin my reputation either I mean if some guy was like handing out his number to random strangers, I'd think playa right away. I always laugh when really drunk guys and girls are leaving the club and the girl is about to get in the car and then said drunk guy approaches and is slurring his words left and right finally producing a number. Then again these aren't the kind of girls I would ever give my number too but still I mean I just can't do that. I don't know what's wrong with me :(.

T-shirt reads "Dog may be available for coffee"



seriously, you just have to develop your flirting
skills - your "game". fortunately, there are some fine women here
who can help you hone it.

No no no no no no no no! I can't go out in public like that man. I think it would be too much and might drive people away. Imagine if you got approached by 500 people in one day. It gets ridiculous. I think if I was to wear a shirt like that more people would be less likely to come over. I'm dressing right, I know this. I'm acting right, I know this. I just don't know how to seal the ****ing deal and wearing a shirt like that man if the number drops I would be more pissed than I am right now because at least I made like 300 people smile.

If I get the chance to flirt I do, but I don't always get that chance. It's like a split second and they're gone.

Although I did have like 10 minutes to really get this girl I mean she totally left her friends all alone and was by herself but I didn't even know if she had a boyfriend. I don't know what is wrong with me :(.

I have game if like I have time you know? Give me 30 minutes with the girl and I'd be fine but shortening it is like just too little time to do anything and like I said, I'm not the one approaching they're.

yah - even I wouldn't wear that shirt...



but it is about saying something interesting to strike up
a conversation and always walking at the same time and place
so she can "accidentally" run into you again whenever she
likes...



oh yeah - and the most important thing - you have to just
be very casual and not push too hard or you will absolutely
drive them away

but if you always have something nice to say and a funny
joke or comment then she will want to come back and see you
again and find out what you will do/say next time!



<------------No t-shirt, but dog might still go out for coffee...

I've also tried this technique and it does seem to work to some effect. For example I would constantly drive up and down the same streets when we got tired of walking. *my dog has trouble walking for 10 hours straight plus you know the car gives off the appearance that I'm not drunk, I'm responsible, I look nice, I take care of my equipment, etc...* Anyway I was walking down the same street that I would normally walk down and a girl yells from her roof to come see the dog. She runs down the stairs across the street and she's ****ing hot. First thing she told me was she has seen me walk past her house and drive past her house for like the last 30 days but she could never get up enough courage and talk to me. I got to hit on her and talk with her for like 15 minutes and then some douchebag dude came down the stairs got to the edge of the door gave me this evil ****ing look, she turned to him and walked away from me almost instantaneously. This then led to her friend calling down from the roof who tried interrupting us as we were talking about what my mission in life is. She was wondering if I used my dog as a dating device. I was like I don't know maybe. Then she said somethin smart so I got her real good.

See my dog's name is snuggles but her last name is deez nuts so if I really want to make a girl laugh I have that game to do so but it can be quite evil as well so I'm not sure when to play that card and when not to you know?

Walking down the same party streets also got me reoognition from fraternities and houses. My dog was welcome in about 50 different houses upon like the 14 blocks we walked on. It was pretty neat but you know never sealed the deal. Everyone at the local dog park knew my dog by name.

I've moved away from there though :(. I just moved to a brand new place so I sorta have to start over ya know? However, I don't want to take the next 2 years of my dog's puppy life to find cool people again. It took a long time in NY mostly because 75% of the time it was too cold or raining to do anything. Plus college wouldn't stay in session forever so there went another 15%.

I don't push hard at all. I think I may not say enough because I'm intimidated at first and by the time I catch myself they're gone or if I am involved in a conversation got one who's really interested here comes the friend dun dun stops wedding bells you know?

yeah - well now let's be kind to the dog...
a dog can only take so much walkin y'know!



see i used to walk the cat!


did you ever see "Big Daddy" when Sandler has the
kid pimpin him?