have a question to ask in which i could really use female input.

as you may have noticed the info on this profile is bogus.. mainly to hide who i am.

Now there is this female person of whom i have known for awhile now..

our relationship started by us dating.

However due to some life complication / troubles it was never able to reach full potential.

We have remained very close friends in the mean time.

However i love her dearly. always have. and i know she loves me... however I'm IN love with her...and she isn't IN love with me.

but as these troubles/ complications become lessened and fixed.. she becomes closer and closer to me. giving me more attention... and what i would interpret behaving more like a female interested in a guy rather then a female being social with a guy friend... at the same time she can be very hard to read.. which is impressive as i am a very very perceptive person. i know i have not given much details to work with but i cant really give them...as it may expose who i am...

the question is...

is my intuition correct in feeling that she feels she can't give herself to me until i have everything improved? or is it merely my desire of her in such a mind set, fogging my judgment?

there are times i get this impression and other times i get the opposite. i have always been good at reading people but sometimes i cant read her.. i think I'm to "close" to her and that is why. What do you think?

I'm more then happy to give more info privately =) if needed

thanks

-dazed and confused

Good question...I have felt the same way many times. I think sometimes we believe what we need to beleive...BUT I also feel its worth taking a chance and finding out for sure...good luck!

Since we are unable to see her actions, her body language, her her words, or vocal tones and cues, there is really no way to guess if you intuition is correct or not based on the information given.

Other than to say that if you have a gut feeling that she may be interested in more than friends now, ask her.

You answered your own question. Keep fixing your troubles/complications.

Btw, your profile ROCKS!

Maybe you should take the time to talk to her and let her know how you feel, who knows maybe she feels the same about you but is thinking in the same mind set, I think you should just express your feelings to her and it will either work out good or you'll tank either way its better to know where you stand with her then always wondering what it might have been if you just took the time to tell her, if you wait to long you may never get that chance, Don't set in the back row and watch the love of a life walk away, take the leap.

sadly... this tactic wont work with her. For if in the case what i feel was true.. she would deny it and not let me know.

we are both very clever people.. sadly... she has the upper hand on this one hahaha. but its one of the many reasons i admire her so.

and GG2 yeah... i think i have too.. its nice to vent out though.. don't have anyone i can talk to over this matter.. =(


i guess only time will tell.

last time i did that.... totally tanked. but then again i was never one to ace the timing thing hahahahahaaha. and it was..for sure.. bad timing lol. But after the 'awkward" stage passed we become closer again. and since then i have only worked twice as hard to prove to her, i never was, are, or ever will be a dueshbag as many ( no offense) main stream guys are. (which i know.. she is very aware of.) as well as stepping way up to the plate to solve many of the issues that were in the way between us long ago.

damn...

"waiting" blows.

Don't do anything to sabotage what you have with her, that includes putting her on the spot by asking questions. If you still have issues to work out, get them straight first. When that's done then you can ask her, and if the feeling isn't mutual, at least you'll have your sh!t together and can meet another woman freely.