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Topic: SABOTAGE
REDGIRL67's photo
Sat 12/13/08 03:43 PM
Why is it that when I have a good thing going with any kind of relationship I have to sabotage it?

I push people away. Recently I did this to someone I was really starting to care about and I feel horrible about it.

Who else out there catches themselves doing this with a lot of relationships? Any suggestions? Please be nice.

ambuh_massacre's photo
Sat 12/13/08 03:45 PM
I do this a lot too.

darkowl1's photo
Sat 12/13/08 03:47 PM
Edited by darkowl1 on Sat 12/13/08 03:50 PM
well,......stop that!!laugh laugh laugh i understand though, but it's hard enough to make work without sabotage. how-ever, sometimes people mis-construe actions, and try to make you be the culprit of guilty, if that makes sense.

try not to anylize it to death, and find faults galore, unless there are faults galore, then it may be time to move on.

MirrorMirror's photo
Sat 12/13/08 03:50 PM
Edited by MirrorMirror on Sat 12/13/08 03:50 PM

I do this a lot too.
:smile: Yeah Im starting to think I may have this problem too.:smile:I can't seem to stay interested in maintaining a relationship.:smile: I get bored with it.:smile: I like the first parts of a relationship when I am still getting to know the other person but after I get to know them I seem to lose interest.flowerforyou

ambuh_massacre's photo
Sat 12/13/08 03:51 PM


I do this a lot too.
:smile: Yeah Im starting to think I may have this problem too.:smile:I can't seem to stay interested in maintaining a relationship.:smile: I get bored with it.:smile: I like the first parts of a relationship when I am still getting to know the other person but after I get to know them I seem to lose interest.flowerforyou


Exactly the same with me!

Winx's photo
Sat 12/13/08 03:59 PM


I do this a lot too.
:smile: Yeah Im starting to think I may have this problem too.:smile:I can't seem to stay interested in maintaining a relationship.:smile: I get bored with it.:smile: I like the first parts of a relationship when I am still getting to know the other person but after I get to know them I seem to lose interest.flowerforyou


Do you see each other too often in the beginning and talk too much on the phone? That doesn't help it.

REDGIRL67's photo
Sat 12/13/08 04:01 PM


I do this a lot too.
:smile: Yeah Im starting to think I may have this problem too.:smile:I can't seem to stay interested in maintaining a relationship.:smile: I get bored with it.:smile: I like the first parts of a relationship when I am still getting to know the other person but after I get to know them I seem to lose interest.flowerforyou
flowerforyou Thank you Mirror, that is exactly my problem.

But the even worse part is that I find myself doing this sooner in a relationship the older I get. I lose my patients so quickly and just give up. tears brokenheart What the he** is wrong with me?

PATSFAN's photo
Sat 12/13/08 04:08 PM
It takes alot for me to be interested in someone theses days, long ago I would fall in love fast, now I'm stand offish, maybe I just got too comfortable being single...

AllenAqua's photo
Sat 12/13/08 04:09 PM
Are these online relationships ? If so, my feeling is that they are iffy at best, so I wouldn't beat myself up about it.

Winx's photo
Sat 12/13/08 04:10 PM

Are these online relationships ? If so, my feeling is that they are iffy at best, so I wouldn't beat myself up about it.


I've had a good online relationship.

RKISIT's photo
Sat 12/13/08 04:11 PM

It takes alot for me to be interested in someone theses days, long ago I would fall in love fast, now I'm stand offish, maybe I just got too comfortable being single...
is this why you don't email me anymorefrown ..............laugh laugh drinker

PATSFAN's photo
Sat 12/13/08 04:12 PM


It takes alot for me to be interested in someone theses days, long ago I would fall in love fast, now I'm stand offish, maybe I just got too comfortable being single...
is this why you don't email me anymorefrown ..............laugh laugh drinker



You don't bring me flowers anymorerofl rofl rofl

REDGIRL67's photo
Sat 12/13/08 04:25 PM

Are these online relationships ? If so, my feeling is that they are iffy at best, so I wouldn't beat myself up about it.
True, I didn't look at it like that

REDGIRL67's photo
Sun 12/14/08 09:35 AM

It takes alot for me to be interested in someone theses days, long ago I would fall in love fast, now I'm stand offish, maybe I just got too comfortable being single...
Yeah, I think I have become too comfortable with being single. Love my privacy

no photo
Sun 12/14/08 09:39 AM
I believe that alot of people sabatoge relationships because they are afraid of getting too close, (engulfed) in love and or subconsciously dont believe they deserve something so good.

REDGIRL67's photo
Sun 12/14/08 09:41 AM

I believe that alot of people sabatoge relationships because they are afraid of getting too close, (engulfed) in love and or subconsciously dont believe they deserve something so good.
I did feel like I didn't deserve him. I have nothing to offer him.

no photo
Sun 12/14/08 09:42 AM
I set one on fire once.......it wasnt pretty.....


oh.....are we talking about relationships.....

oops


Nevermind..............

bigsmile

imsingle951's photo
Sun 12/14/08 11:58 AM

Why is it that when I have a good thing going with any kind of relationship I have to sabotage it?

I push people away. Recently I did this to someone I was really starting to care about and I feel horrible about it.

Who else out there catches themselves doing this with a lot of relationships? Any suggestions? Please be nice.
It always seems that I do it also

Winx's photo
Sun 12/14/08 09:13 PM

I believe that alot of people sabatoge relationships because they are afraid of getting too close, (engulfed) in love and or subconsciously dont believe they deserve something so good.


The psychologists suggest that they could be doing it for that reason. It's a push pull kind of thing. I want you - go away/don't get close.

Winx's photo
Sun 12/14/08 09:14 PM


I believe that alot of people sabatoge relationships because they are afraid of getting too close, (engulfed) in love and or subconsciously dont believe they deserve something so good.
I did feel like I didn't deserve him. I have nothing to offer him.


You have soooo much to offer. I can see it in your posts.
Intelligent, caring, witty.flowerforyou

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