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im sorry..why aren't you taken? lol Too old. Too chubby. Too bald. Too broke. Too antisocial....etc.....lol |
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lol.
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Good Lord NO!!! That does not make ANY sense. Sorry to be so blunt, but this dude is a real piece of work. Do you not think you deserve any better than that?? He is never, EVER going to make you or your child a priority. You keep hanging on and waiting for him to do something tha he is just not willing to do. He KNOWS that you aren't going anywhere, so he plays that to it's fullest. Meanwhile..you keep allowing it. You want a " family "....fine. Make his ass pay child support. To have a REAL family, you are going to have to, first, find a man that is worthy of your time. He isn't it. Period. This is so true, you deserve so much more. Find a man that is worthy of you and your child. |
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i have also found that it is very hard to watch any other man play with my child. it almost makes me sick. i just want scream "your not his dad! go away!"
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You and your child deserve better than this guy. He is using you, and you can't let your child grow up in a home like that. My ex has been out of mine and my son's life for over 5 years. We struggle alot, but I would rather struggle than have a man in my life who physically abused me and completely ignored his child. No one deserves to be treated the way he is treating you.
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hey, girl! I know how you feel being 2nd best is not the best feeling in the world I should know I did for 5 years! and we have 3 babies, but listen your son and you should come first no matter what and though I know it will hurt to move on its time. I think you're king is out there princess! and you and your prince(son) deserve to be HAPPY!! E-mail I am always ears if you need to vent
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 Damn......
MOst people consider me a lousey piece of s*it but there's no way in hell I would have ever done that to anyone. This guy is suckin up air that decent people could be using..... I'm really sorry to hear that your going through this. It truely breaks my heart tohear that someone is or has gone through ANYTHING like what I have had to.
My heart goesout to you. |
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sounds to me like this guy is a bad habit..one you need to kick.......to the curb...its obvious he doesnt care about you...so stop sleeping with him and move on or continue to be hurt over and over ...you and your son need a more stable life than the one this guy is giving you...i bet he doesnt even help you buy stuff that your son needs...dont you feel yall deserve better if not you how about the kid..this guy sounds like a real winner ..NOT..the sooner you break the ties with this guy the better off you and your son will be..what happens if you have another kid by this idiot then what ..find someone you can love and TRUST to be there for you and your son..its no longer just about you any more ,,and let me give you a hint its not that LOSER... 
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i have also found that it is very hard to watch any other man play with my child. it almost makes me sick. i just want scream "your not his dad! go away!" This is something that you are going to HAVE to work on. If a guy is actually good with your child, shouldn't that score him a few more points with you??? With the lack of decent men who are willing to step up and take your child as part of the package of being with you, you really need to step back and take a look at the sabotage you are inflicting on yourself. You are dead " hooked " on someone who is never going to be what you want him to be. Because of that, you are deliberately ( if subconsciously ) throwing hand grenades at any other dude that comes along. Like I have said before. You need to take a look at what you are doing, and ask yourself if you really want your son growing up thinking that what his " father " is doing is ok. One phrase that I have heard over and over again is this.... Anyone can be a father. It takes a real man to be a Dad. Because of your hangup on an unwilling " father ", your son will not find out what a Dad really is. That means he won't have any concept of the idea once HE is in the situation of having a child. |
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That is a tough situation, and I see that you have already received some excellent advise.
I would like to add that you might want to consider reading some self help books such as "10 Stupid Things Women Do To Mess Up Their Lives" by Dr Laura. I don't want to sound preachy with this advice, but I found her book for guys to be insightful and beneficial. |
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Leave Him
Forget Him Move On You are a better person then what he is willing to give you. You are young you have plenty of time to develop a heahty family with a man that will respect you and love you. |
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all i can say..is one day at a time..one day at a time.
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