As far as not thinking about something that is depressing to me. It involves my daughter and I absolutely refuse to stop thinking about her.

I'd rather live with being depressed.


The holidays are always tough for families spread out. With families divided by divorce it is helpful to remember that the concept of family is not just childhood but a life long thing. And that while not every holiday will be so perfect some will just be the pits and that is something that just about everyone experiences even if it doesn't seem so.

If you find that you feel better with the light try purchaseing a Ott Light at a fabric or office supply store and use it while you eat or pursue a hobby. Limiting tv and computer time will also help. The flickering screen makes it harder to shift into your presleep level and get into deep sleep. Because winter heating tends to dehydrate the body adding a non-caffeinated beverage helps. Avoiding food coloring and chocolate helps avoid that low grade irritability.

journaling can help, write it and than put it away, don't read it again because than you may or may not dwell on what you are feeling, you can even write what you are feeling and than in a way to stand up for yourself you can tare that paper to itty bitty peices and throw it outside your door to say your not gonna let it bother you. Feels good to sometimes. I have done it before. you can cook yourself something you like to eat and have a nice meal, maybe watch a favorite movie and kick back and relax. Or you call a freind you trust and just chat about nothing, try keeping the conversation light, you would be surprised how your funny side comes out when you try to keep it light, before you know it your throwing out all those sarcastic funny jokes about stuff the both of you agree on and your laughing. Look up jokes online, that is fun! You can even go to youtube and watch comedians perform, its so much fun. Or you can get crafty and make a gift for someone you like and admirer, maybe someone you know won't be throwing the gift at you, you know, like a good friend or confidant. Being crafty isn't just for women, men know how to do stuff too. Or maybe you can call someone and say hello, someone you might think might be feeling lonely too, and maybe by making them feel good, you will feel good too. Encouraging others is a great way to boost your own emotional energies. Hugs