Here is what I do (I don't have any ex g/f hating me, thank God)

Dont-s:

-Don't send her a nasty email or phone call. Resist.

-Don't think of her anymore as someone who might still love you, and don't hold any hope of getting back together again.

- Don't look for scapegoats why the relationship went sour. It's both sides, one she (or he) can't be the only problem. You were too.

-Don't think there is no more love left for you or you ran out of time.

-Don't hate yourself over it.

-Don't immediately date someone, hoping you can heal this way. You need time to recirculate yourself and feel fresh and neutral again.


Do-s:

-After some time you made peace with the situation, if you have a chance, do offer your friendship to your lost partner, but only friend, it's never a good idea to have "enemies" or people that you think they "hate" you. They don't hate you, they probably say stuff about you, but once you make peace with her (or him) you notice (and so does she) that there is no hate, only frustration.

- Do go out and meet people, you sit at home it's such a waste and wasting yourself, you just don't know what you're missing out.

-Do try to be happy, I found pets can make me feel better at the worst times.

-Don't think it's the worst thing ever. I usually think about those submarine guys who don't get to see anyone beside their buddies for months. I know it's terrible, but your (or my) situation is a 100 times better than most people on the planet.

-Do something that knocks the hell out of you. Meaning exercise or hard work. I split wood with axe to get rid of my frustration and forget about it. After it, I'm so tired, but satisfied at the same time.

Don't DO each other . . . more than once or twice.

Neener, neener, neener.

Bry