Not wanting to talk to someone who already has a kid at a young age?

nope its your preference and your life

I don't think you should feel bad- exactly but just tell her how you feel- she will appreciate the honesty in the long run.

I know that I would prefer to know the truth- I don't want to waste my time talking to someone who is not interested for whatever reason.

Tell her.

Have a great Thanksgiving

I don't think so. You get to set your own preferences in life.

But.. I think I would look at the whole person. I've known some girls to mess up in their teens, and they took responsibility and had the child, and became great mothers. There are other girls who mess up and you never know because they chose a different way to handle getting pregnant.

Or is it the kid in general that is the reason?

is it because she had it at a young age or do you think she's damaged goods now? After all she's not asking you to marry her. JMO

Talking to a young person with a kid????? Or, dating and having a relationship with a young person with a kid?????

Unless he or she is trying to enlist you into parental replacement, what is the harm in talking???

Keep in mind that for every young lady who messed up in their teens, there is also usually a YOUNG man who did, tooooooo!!!! She's just the one who usually carries the evidence around.

Is that the only reason you do not want to talk to them? You could be passing on a great relationship. It is hard enough being a single mom, so talking is one thing you do not have to be Daddy do you. Just be a freind.

Dude, the way I look at it, you're just a kid yourself. If you don't feel you're ready to be a "family" man, then don't talk to her and don't think twice about it. You would be doing both of you a favor if you didn't. He!! I was in my 30's before I felt comfortable dating someone with kids. I still feel a little uncomfortable around them, but now just because I don't want them to learn that kind of language from me.

I'll also go so far as to say if the conversation was completely unsolicited, you don't even have to respond. Half the women on here don't respond to ours. However, if you started this, it would be good manners to tell her why you are "uncomfortable."

What's wrong with "talking" to someone...there is no 'commitment' attatched to having a conversation! For all you know, SHE could be the one and only you let slip through your fingers.