But my question is to the older adults, but mostly men.


How many of you when you were in your teens actually looking for somthing really serious, somone you would fall in love with, someone you were going to spend the rest of your life with?


I bet i can just about answer for every guy, but not the women. That more then half will say unless there her just to impress the women that they were in to girls just for sex at that time. So how can teens and knowing it's women, expect anything different when the man being a teen doesent have a clue at that age of what the hell he wants out of life or even going for that matter. He is still growing and going to be learning the things as alot of us do now. it's just a fact of life that 99.9% men at that age are not looking to have kid and settle down

Married at 16...thought it was forever

Well, when I was in my teens, I was way more concerned with falling in "love" with someone for the next hour or two. I really didn't think much farther ahead than that. In fact, it was only about twenty minutes ago I STOPPED thinking like that....



Hell, I'm not looking for that NOW!

Speaking just for myself, yeah, you're right. When I was in my teens, I was just like every other guy I was friends with....we were out to get laid, and as often as possible. Although I had my share to an extent, I still largely wound up on the short end of the stick compared to the other guys. Things haven't changed much.

i guess i started to think like i do now when i was 18 and started getting the lonlies

At that age, we lived in a fantasy world, not to say that some still don't but thats besides the point. The way i look at it is that women actually have to train men in alot of ways through life and faild relationships how to become a man and to know what to be with a women actually means. Now some might disagree with this, but if you look at it. There are more men lost in this world then there are women.

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Meh. I met my daughter's mom when I was 18 and we messed around some...but I wasn't with her strictly to have sex.

You may remove my Man Card now.

i dont remember much back then.

Well, yes, and we (not necessarily you) know that each woman of experience has her world well under control. Whether she finds in us (individually) that potential halfway-trained man to fill the other 10% of her world with togetherness is her goal and our desire.
Then, after she sheds the child-raising years and is I-got-to-LIVE-NOW!!, the 10% suddenly becomes 40% to 60% of her world. That latter half of life demands an entirely different relationship than the first half of life. At that point, when she needs the 40-60% of new life fulfilled, isn't she as lost as a man, albeit differently?

Here ill make this simple, who has more control of wanting to have sex or not. Women or men?

Women!

Women have control of having sex.

(Men are constant. After menopause, the two sides equal out, according to some women.)

See, by just knowing that, doesn't it kind of stand that men, not all, but alot at that age are not really intune as women are. So it kind of makes my post what it is.

True.

Thanks Secoundrel, you know, i know there are a few people on here that keep others thinking. I just wish there were more like you

I don't think women are all that into being tied down either but the old double standard thing. Women don't really control sex because if they could do it when they wanted, and didn't have to worry about pregnancy or reputation they would probably have sex on their own schedule that would be more when they guys catch on a little romance usually get them laid. If the whole baby thing wasn't such a your stuck thing they would be out the door about the same time guys get bored. Think about it when you date a woman who has all the kids she wants and a halfway decent job don't they get bored with you about the same time you get bred with them? If not by luck of the draw you are a really good match love doesn't last unless someone or something motivates people to get over the dips in interest. IMHO

Actually I pretty much stayed with the same woman throughout my teen years, looking for having that serious relationship, and planning a family life. I sacrificed Art College, The Miltary, and other offers along the way. Although the relationship ended in divorce and heart ache, I have the 2 best things that could have ever been placed in my life at the time...MY SONS!

I understand what your saying but looking at reality and knowing that. Women will always have more respect for there body then a man ever will. So it does put somewhat alot more control on the situation and they way women think in life compare to men.