So, me and my friend hung out for the first time Monday. We hit it off well and everything kiss and held hands right before I left. Last night was the first time we talked because she's been really busy (she showed me all her homework on her laptop Monday). So, here is where I get to the "rejection" part. I asked her to hang out with me Monday and she said she couldn't due to her having a paper due Tuesday. So I said "oh are we gonna hang out anytime soon? " she said "im sorry but with finals coming up I'm not too sure" and we went on to talk about our possible relationship she said for now she wants to postpone me and her and she said our kiss did mean something and she feels bad that she led me on because we can't be together sooner. I told her I understood and she said "its not just you i wouldn't bring anyone into my life right now it wouldn't be fair to you or me". I actually spoke to my boss and he said a girl did this once to him and two months later she ended up asking him back out. She told me that she'll let me know when she wants to see me, and I said well I'll still probably be around but I can't promise anything. Is it possible shes being serious??

If she's worth it to you, you'll wait. If she isnt, then what's the problem?

It sounds like she's interested but is trying to be honest with you.


It's rather amazing to me the amount of men who complain that women are too clingy but yet when we are the ones not wanting to commit to anything it's wrong???


Give her space if you're interested you have to be patient and see.

sounds it to me
she sounds up front and pretty honest with you
she's letting you know where she stands and leaving options open for a 'what if' later in life.
don't wait around for her...but don't completely close things off to her either.

i dont think he is complaining. i think he genuinely wants advice as to whether he should believe her. it sounds to me like he really likes her and she's worth the wait *smiles*

Nuff said -----^

Are ya desperate? In a rush? In a hurry? Move on then. If not- wait.

Sorry to derail your thread, but longhairedbiker you hair is badass man! haha

I think maybe what she needs right now is a good friend and if things progress thru friendship then it does and if she's not even wanting to do the friend thing then.. thats a tale tell sign she's not interested... Try not to pressure her... I know from experience that college (or whatever) is tough and if she's really dedicated to what she is trying to do.. maybe she just needs time to finish that up...

I do want to wait for her, but my question was is she being serious? I just don't want to get my hopes up and she ends up not wanting me. I'm not gonna sit around waiting for her, I'll move on and live my life. She does want to be my friend we still talk and will continue to talk. As far as I can tell she is being genuine as shes always talking about school work and how shes in honors classes. I definitely think shes worth the wait I want to get to know her better and see if we work as a couple. Thanks for all the response.

Then wait. If you get burned, that's life, but if you get impatient and walk away from something that could have been good, then you'll always wonder and regret. Just give it a few months, you dont have to be waiting dilligently forever or anything.

yea, I'm gonna wait until winter break. If she doesn't want to hang out then then I'll know shes probably lying and just doesn't like me. I mean we have a month off school, so she should be able to find some time for me.

sounds about right

Holy crap do I know you? This totally happened to me like...a week ago. Seriously, the EXACT same thing, homework, kissing, too busy, "it wouldn't be fair to you" EVERYTHING. What the heck? Well anyway, I feel bad for you because I know how bad it actually made me feel. I really liked this girl, she said she liked me a lot, but she was "too busy".

Yea, I felt really bad too. Did your girl tell you she wanted to postpone you two? Thats what she said to me.

Yeah, pretty much the exact same thing. But the problem is...she hasn't talked to me since. She said something about cooking me dinner one time, but then the night came that she said she would...yep never called me. Then two days later she said "I really like you, but you don't deserve this, you deserve something way better. I am busy all the time and I feel so bad about it."

Mmmhh I can only speak for myself..and I use the :" I am not ready right now..and I want to wait, I would not wanna date anyone right now..." line if I am still hung up on a dude..soo she may just be getting out of a relationship.(She may or may not have shared some stories about him w/ u)..anyway, so her getting w/ you may just depend on if she can get back with the guy she was w/ before you.
All I can say..don't be the rebound guy..give her space..take her "advice"..and if she is important to you enough, which well after a week I am not sure that you can make that determination, then I would wait..But hun, I would go and date someone else. Thats Just my experience and opinion on this.;)

if she is not ready now, why is she here ???

move on man, dont get hung up on one.

this site is bad-azz -


God , why didnt I think of this concept ???

Don't sweat it, show you care by letting her keep her priorities straight. be cool and let her get through it. Be supportive.