im separated and goin through a divorce soon and i want to get on with my life and date but i dont want to drag a innocent guy in the mix have any advice on what to do

just wait till the divorce is settled.

Agreed, unless this is such an amicable divorce with two grown-ups acting like grown-ups, I wouldn't bother dating yet.

Live your life. If you meet a guy, and you tell him about your situation....and he wants to be with you, then he asked to get "into" your mess. I'm not saying that you should date a guy during all this. I am saying that if you do meet someone and things just work out, and he understands your situation, then "just do it".

ditto

My divorce took over 3 years to settle.....Why wait?....Live goes on....If you feel ready to date then put yourself out there....

some people see divorce as carrying baggage.....Hey baggage can always be checked in at the ticket counter....everyone carries some baggage too.....just remember to Handle with Care and you'll be fine....

do the adult thing,drag'em through the mud its a doggy dog world

Ok I am not bashing you but there is some glaring things here that stand out. Divorce Soon...
So there are no papers filed and this process hasn't been started and you have been on here for a few months already in my opinion you have alreadt moved on and are actively looking, so where is the problem.

I personally believe you should let some dust settle before you start dating anything serious since there is a growing and letting go process that needs to be done before you get into a realtionship,also stat's are the first 2 -3 relationship after a long term relationship usually doesn't work. So date casually for a while get your life in order then think about a serious relationship if it should happen in the process great if not you are not hurting yourself or others in the process.
Good luck

You my friend ... are ruthless..lol

I cant imagine what you are going thru..my advise to you is to take it one day at a time. If you find someone who you can have fun w/ but still be up front and honest w/..then I say GO FOR IT. Life is too short ... but be the nice person you are and let them know what is going on. You seem like a smart girl..I wish you a lot of luck hun..:)

I would wait and give yourself time....What's the Rush? So many people jump from the frying pan and into the fire! Why is it so important for people to make sure they have someone in their lives. It's nice to have someone there, I agree; but at this time you probably aren't at your best.....What you "are" and show to others is what you will attract. So be careful!

goood advise..wow

thx for the advice what u guys said is what ive been thinking about and just wanted to know what other people thought about the situation from people who might have gone through the same thing

Wait

I think it's best to wait until one is healed.

i recommend NOT dating innocent guys.

yeah i know not to date the innocent ones til the divorce is filed and done with but thats all the guys i get are innocent ones