so i don't know where to post this, cause its not a relationship relationship...and its not chit chat...i need feedback on a problem.



whatever, the mods will put this where it needs to be...so thank you.

anyways, i have this friend named cassie. well actually, best friends...inseperable since day 1.

well she has been known to ditch me countless times to have sex with guys...and leave me hangin in the bar finding my own ride home...and luckily my friend damian has always been there to give me a lift home.

well cassie did the dirty deed with damian a couple weeks ago. cassie calls it "a fling" and damian calls it a "drunken mistake"...well she told everybody...only cause whoever she has sex wit next, she tells them who she has had sex wit in the past couple of weeks.

well damian approached her and asked why she was telling everybody...and she blamed me.

so damian told me....(and yes, i realize this is getting long...soooo sorrry!!!!!!!!)....and told me that he knew I wouldn't have done that. and basically told cassie to get lost.

well....i was drunk, and pissed, and honestly, i felt like i was betrayed. why would she tell him that i would go spreading rumors? especially about a friend who has taken me home when she has ditched me?

well turns out, this guy i was messing around wit...stopped talking to me cause cassie told everybody we were dating.

and now he wont even look at me.





well here's my question. i've been friends wit this girl for almost 7 years...i love her to death...flaws and all....but how many chances do i give her?

do i give her another chance?

Sure, why not? Let's see how bad things get.

First you have to define the word "friend" for yourself, then go from there.

Personally she doesnt sound like someone who I would associate with.

i would find different friends perhaps...i woulda been p.o'd the first time she ditched me in a bar to go get laid though.
not a cool thing to do

I've stood by friends with issues but if she's treating you unfairly you might cut her out of your life for awhile and later on if you miss her and think she's changed let her back in your life

No matter what that's almost always going to happen with female friends, we're *****es, you know, i know everyone else knows it....

I know my best friend, we've been friends since 7th grade, She means so much to me i even have a tattoo on the back of my neck for her, she has the same. Beleive me when i say we've had our differances... we even stopped talking to eachother for almost 6 months one time over a guy... It's happened a few times, and both of us were to blame.... but when it comes down to it we're there for each other when we need it the most

Sounds to me like there's way too much alcohol involved here. It tends to cause way more problems than it's worth. Your friend, she's no friend. Your other "friends", not so much easier.

Cut her loose. Thus is life. People come and go from our influence and confluence in life. Don't hold onto a deadbeat user. You deserve better. Find solid friends that are there for you through thick and thin. Move along. Find a solid comrade. She's obviously not the one. Give her the ax. It's much simpler in life to let go of the riff-raff than to hold onto the flotsam and jetsam. Let her drift until she finds her own way. Stop enabling this confused and manipulative user and abuser. You deserve so much better.

glad I don't have friends like that.

i've got a dog named Cassie

Ditching you to hook up with guys isn't worth losing a friendship over.

The real issue is that she has had no problems in blaming you for things she had said and messing up your own relationships. That is NOT a hallmark of friendship.

You may have known her a long time, but it sounds more like she sees you as a 'party' friend. A good person to go out with and pick up guys.

It she saw you as a true friend to her, she wouldn't be doing those things to you. You are the one carrying the burden of friendship.

Let it go.

There's names for girls like that, and if she doesn't like it, she can stop BEING it.

..and that name isnt FRIEND... get some real friends.

If the guy you were "messing" around with didn't even talk to you about this situation he really isn't the one for you.

As for your friend Cassie, you have been friends forever it sounds and things will work out. Just talk to her about it.

I do agree with the masses, alcohol or not, my friends wouldn't leave me hanging like that ever.