I think for a while, we wear it on our sleeve.

Yeap hearing you got to toughen up and move on is hard. But I guess it protects you.

I feel awkward posting to this thread, since I haven't lost a spouse. I have, however had many other (albeit lesser) losses, of other loved ones, which have taught me that when life blindsides you, you can only sit out so many rounds to grieve, and then you just have to make yourself get up and get back into the game again. Friends can help, can commiserate, can love you and pray for you....but ultimately, you have to make the move.
I pray for all of you....for the losses you have suffered.....and for hope for the future...

HI M Carold
how are you sweetie? It's been while
Tammy

I'm curious to know, especially of the widows/widowers without children, if they have kept in close contact with their in-laws. If not, did it just poop out or what happened?

In-laws are dead. Pretty simple.

I speak from having children, and I moved my mother-in-law in last year. She, a recent widow, and needing grounding. That seems to be my role..still

Nope at the funeral in front of the rest of the family they acted as if they really cared and after the funeral no contact. But his mom and dad both divorced when he was young so on both sides were step families and my husband and his brother were pretty much left out of the loop all the time. The brother and his family I might see one or twice a year. Holidays


Yeah Ms Tami nice pic girlie :)

Thanks Pretty lady

count me in

Okay Mendy :)

married 30 years, widowed for 8 soon to be 9. Found out the hard way that life isn't arriving at the destination, it's all about the journey to it. Dealing with her passing was 100 times easier than dealing with life w/out her. I see lots of her in other women and am better off because of it. It took me 2 years before I was able to have sex, my heart wouldn't let me. (Glad that's behind me!!!) I appreciate things more now than ever before and I am just grateful that she was there.

Welcome Elder nice to see a new face. I didn't date for 3 years after my husband past I had been married before for 10 then we were together 18. My dad died when my mom was 48 and she never remarried only dated once. I thought the same for me and twice was enough. But my head is in a different place now looking to find the right one for me. Maybe not marriage we'll see never say never it has always bit me in the *** lol.

Good Morning,

breathing has a whole new perspective. Have had to learn all over, something I used to do naturally..
Holidays and special times are coming up for all of us.
Just here to say HI this morning.

Yeah breathing :) that is why I got into gentle Yoga :)

haven't tried that..walking helps..getting up in the morning, too.

It is one of those times, again. I feel us here, that memory and missing. How that warmth is different. I just wanted to say hi to y'all..thinking of you and understanding..a bit..

Somewhat Slow

Could I just stay awhile,
Feel that soothing warmth?
It is getting chilly.
This bed, feels the windy North.
It's feelin mighty roomy, here.
Not close to quite the same.
When I wrap up in our robe.
Your smell, there's no remain.
These tears are falling faster.
I guess I need to go.
If you don't mind, I'll take my time,
And feel this somewhat slow.

Raine Les 11/20/2009

If Only

a little bit of inhale
forgetting just to breathe
those tender quiet moments
warm kisses, weakened knees.
surprises in the kitchen
distractions, such a tease
the little things forgotten
comfortable, the ease
whispers in the dark
wandering touch, all these
infused within my being
If only, I could breathe.

Raine Les 11/20/2009

Yeah I am widowed also!
Kenny