For years, it was the men who had the monopoly on commitment-phobia. But
what about commitment-phobic women? Yes, women! Raised to believe that
men are the commitment-shy gender, many women coast through life
completely oblivious about their own commitment anxiety—believing they
want a relationship yet systematically pushing away one perfectly
suitable candidate after another.

Isn’t it high time we looked at ourselves and admit that maybe, just
maybe, we are the ones who have become commitment-challenged? If you’re
ready to finally face the truth, go down the list of these common
symptoms and see if any apply.
* You have a long and elaborate list of requirements for your ideal
mate.
* Once the excitement of first romance has passed, you get bored in
most of your relationships.
* You have a habit of dating unavailable men (married, involved with
someone else, geographically or emotionally distant, etc.).
* You consider your married friends’ relationships boring and feel
that many of them have settled for too little.
* You cultivate larger networks of friends and acquaintances at the
expense of romantic relationships.
* You date more than one man at a time to prevent becoming
dependent.
* You have a difficult time getting over past boyfriends.

it's okay to break a little ice here lol.

donny

full story here:
http://msn.match.com/msn/article.aspx?articleid=7557&menuid=6&lid=418

DONNY,IM SINGLE NOT BECOS I HATE OR AM AFRAID OF COMMITMENT.IM SINGLE I
CHOOSE TO BE.I WANT A GUY TO BE PART OF MY LIFE...NOT RUN IT!!! BESIDES
BEEN THERE DONE THAT...ONCE...I LOVEEEEEEEEEEEEE MY
INDEPENDENCE!!!!

CORRECTION..SINGLE BECOS I CHOOSE TO BE!

so true nascar

I think that women "in general" have found their independence. So many
women do not need a man's money, or a man to have a home. They don't
need a man for home repairs (ok except for Whisper)but, they can hire
one without anything further to do with them. On the other side, so
many men, still see women as the "homemaker" even though she works as
hard as he does. And women all to often take on the role willingly at
first. And when the "romance" gives way to the daily grind, she finds
she is chief caretaker of all she surveys, including of her man.

I think both men and women need to review these things as it's more
important today to have a "partner" in life. A relationship where
sharing is achieved throught communication and intimacy is seen as the
goal at the end of the day of chores.

Having said that, judgeing from this website, and from older frinds
working of a second or third long term, more mature relationship, I see
that they are trying more to be good partners to each other and getting
away from the old traditional male, female roles.