i posted a topic about being in love with my best friend. we talk everyday for almost 7 months now. were really close as friends.

since im sick of being single, and i dont sleep around, im looking for marriage. couldnt imagine anyone better then my best friend, cause we get along so well. but i dont think thats happening.

how do you move onto others, without feeling guilty? do serious relationships exist, just because you want them too? i see the terms 'long-term' and 'serious' on dating sites. isnt that like signing your soul away, without reading the fine print? i know i dont want dating or an activity partner though, cause im not a club person, or one to really care about strangers, specially if itll cost me dinner, and im not looking to sleep around.

i know i wont get over this without moving on, but none of the options to move forward seem like good options...

any opinions?

Signing you soul away without reading the fine print?? Not sure I understand what you mean by that so if you could explain that part.

If you feel this strongly about this friend, I'm wondering if she knows that? If not, why not?

Talk to them about it, that is probably the best answer you get. Dunno mate, I haven't even been close to anyone in years.

she does. she just doesnt want to date right now... which kills me. cause at least if she dated someone else, i feel like i could move on. even though i would hate that. im told im first on her list... but girls flirt so much its hard to tell when theyre just being nice, to not offend. ...shes just playing hard to get.

i feel like its misleading, to start a relationship thats suppose to be long term (at least 2 years) when within the first month of getting to know them, if i didnt like them, i would end it... which is the same as casual dating, or talk/email. so, whats the long term options suppose to mean?

I don't think you can go into any relationship knowing it will be long term. That usually just happens. A date or two and most people know whether something is there, or not. I was your age when I started dating my late husband and we knew immediately.

She may not be playing hard to get. She may just not want to ruin a great friendship. You are young and there is a lot to experience out there. Don't sell yourself short by saying you won't go out unless it will last "2 years". You just never know when you could be passing up a good thing. Good Luck.