Topic: Unsoved issues Read everything before you reply
Tameka's photo
Thu 03/29/07 11:44 PM
baby... we are best friends AND roomates... pretty much inseperable...
just have to have eachothers backs... so how are you tonight, sweetie?

TxsGal3333's photo
Fri 03/30/07 11:17 AM
It's all good no matter what reasons others have for coming to this site
and having a great time and all. But... no matter how you meet someone
if your still in love with someone else or there are issues there that
need to be handle then I suggest to take care of those issues before
starting a relantionship with another person. That in a way is leading
the other person on to believing that there might be a chance. Not a
good game to play on others. Just let them know from the beginning you
are here or wherever just for the friendship only until you are
completely thru with the last relantionship. In the mean time maybe just
take the time an become friends instead. Just make sure they know the
situation from the beginning don't wait till you meet them and then tell
them your still having issues with someone else that is just not right.
bigsmile

TheShadow's photo
Fri 03/30/07 04:11 PM
:smile: Txs my point exactly

mnhiker's photo
Fri 03/30/07 04:24 PM
Shadow, I hear you bro and I've been there.

I wanted to date this nurse I met at another
site.

I tried to meet her and she made up all kinds
of excuses not to meet me.

I should gotten wise to what she was doing,
but oh well.

We finally met and kind of hit it off.

But later when we talked on the phone
she told me that she regretted getting
so close so soon (that was her idea)
and how she had been hurt by a lot of
men in her life.

Then she told me I would have to 'prove'
my devotion to her. We hadn't even been
on a second date.

Mind you, this was a woman who was a
lead manager in a medical organization.

She obviously had a lot of emotional
baggage she was carrying around and
wasn't ready for a healthy relationship.

TheShadow's photo
Fri 03/30/07 04:43 PM
Hiker I hae been throught this a couple times lol but I leard to spot
thing out so i don't get to caught up in it the funny thing about it is
usually the first week they are all happy they pay attention to you call
you you know the works right Then the next week comes by lmao that is
usually when you either her it from them that there still dealing with
there own emotion and you will start to see how it is really effecting
them and it is thrown on you by some of there actions So in most
situations your going to end up on the wrong end of the deal if you
don;t take care of yourself but if thta person has any kind of heart you
will become good friends So if I were to say that is where I am right
now Looking to become a friend and take care of me

TheShadow's photo
Fri 03/30/07 04:46 PM
grumble lol I need to slow watch my typing lol

JaneBond's photo
Fri 03/30/07 04:53 PM
Sometime's people pursue relationship's when they are not emotionally
available. Unfortunately, other's get hurt when that happen's. Sorry
to hear what happened Shadow.

TheShadow's photo
Fri 03/30/07 04:57 PM
OH it's all good I just look at it as making another friend :smile:

AlpineRocks's photo
Fri 03/30/07 05:03 PM
What happend Shadow did you meet someone here and have a bad
experiance?????huh Me and my ex split up 2 years ago I'm not really
here looking for a relationship but if it were to happen great. I'm here
pretty much for fun but who knows. Good luck with whatever happened your
good people.bigsmile bigsmile bigsmile glasses Rock On!!!!!!

Lil_Luvr_75's photo
Fri 03/30/07 05:07 PM
Shadow, I have met many people on here. Some true, some not so true. It
is definetely hard to read between the lines. It is sad for those of us
who are trying to keep things real and are genuine true hearted people.

TheShadow's photo
Fri 03/30/07 05:16 PM
Alpine I actually met her on another site I met her twice and we have
been talking for at least three weeks But she has alot od issues to deal
with and for me to even think about trying to get close to someone that
is not ready for what i'm ready for I will end up on the wrong end This
person has a great heart and personality but she is not ready for any
relationship and for me to hang around and hope things will change is
fals hope This will take a little while befor this person can actually
give herself to anothere man Anyway Like I said I look at it as making
another friend and I'm sure she will find ger way and what she is
loooking for.


Lil thank you :smile:

OnALark's photo
Fri 03/30/07 05:16 PM
(((((((((((((Shaddow))))))))))))))) You know how much respect I have
for you. I joined this site simply to look for good people to chat with
and I have. But, I have also joined other sites to meet someone, which
I'm very happy to say that I have met a special man.

It is much too easy to play games with online communication. And when
games are played, people get hurt. I haven't played those games and
never will, but I've had those games played on me. I am so sorry if
you've had them played on you a well. We all have to be very careful
here and remember the number one rule . . . protect yourself, protect
your heart.

TheShadow's photo
Fri 03/30/07 05:19 PM
Yep OnaLark :smile: if I don't take care of me who will?? lol

OnALark's photo
Fri 03/30/07 05:21 PM
She must have really thrown you for a loop; are you ok?

TheShadow's photo
Fri 03/30/07 05:22 PM
No she didn't She talked to me about it and that is when I started to
back off I'm not mad and I'm not hurting it just nice to see things as
they are and I am glad I have the friends that I do have today

OnALark's photo
Fri 03/30/07 05:26 PM
Good; I was concerned. I do agree with you about those who are on
internet dating sites and haven't resolved issues. Heck, I wasn't even
interesting in dating until 2 yrs after my divorce. I have a very
healthy outlook on love and life and realize that just because my first
marriage didn't work, it doesn't mean a second one won't. I think I'll
be married by the end of the year.

I wish you the luck that the good Lord bestowed upon me.

Catherine

AlpineRocks's photo
Fri 03/30/07 05:26 PM
Your right bro my ex was married for 10 years before we got togather so
I definatly can relate but you seem to have a pretty good perspective on
the situation I'm sure everything will be fine keep me posted I never
dated anyone from a dating site in fact this is the first time I ever
joined one I've checked out a few others this is the only on I like. I
also belong to singleparents.com I don't pay for it yet but I'm thinkin
about it because I get like 10 flirts a day from woman so I might check
that one out but thats it. happy

OnALark's photo
Fri 03/30/07 05:28 PM
free site: plentyoffish.com

AlpineRocks's photo
Fri 03/30/07 05:30 PM
Tryed plenty of fish dont like it at all none of the other site have
this good a format on the message boards just my opinion
though.bigsmile bigsmile bigsmile

OnALark's photo
Fri 03/30/07 05:31 PM
Hmmmm, did we meet there?