yeah. im the friend that fell in love. kind of holds me back from moving forward. i guess, cause she isnt seeing anyone. so, she would rather be alone, then with me. i guess im waiting for her to get with someone, to make it official. we talk every day. send love songs, and flirt. best friends. i would say were together, except she never says 'i love you' or even uses the word 'love'. i figure maybe she has a problem saying it... but i think the problems because she doesnt love me.

any advice?

anyone relate?

Maybe shes turned off by the no shirt look???

Does she know how u feel?

...sometimes people need to be alone for periods of time. Would you rather be the rebound guy?? If she does like you, she should be with you because she wants to, not cause she's suddenly available, ya kno? Anyway, best friends tell each other everything. Sounds like thats NOT what you two have going on... ahem. Also, dont get hung up on words, definitions, labels - the best relationships sometimes are ones not defined by society or even people involved... they just EXIST, magical and wonderful and untainted by the garbage of today's conventional society. good luck?..

I'm in love with a stripper.

Well son...

Just tell her how you feel.....if she don't feel the same, move on...if in fact she is your best friend she will tell you and will remain so. What do you got to loose?

Cant relate cos ive never been in that situ. It sounds like she loves you....but just as a friend im afraid, and is maybe scared of misleading u.

U say u would say u r together, but in wat way? r u sexually affectionate with eachother? have u kissed? or is it more like friends with the odd flirting?

Eitherway, u have obviously gave her opportunities, and shes not taking them for watever reason. Maybe u should just ask her how she feels about u.

if we are just friends, does it ever change? she knows i love her. we dont talk about it seriously, cause i dont want the rejection, or to put her on the spot and possibly denting the friendship. we just connect.

Girls aren't stupid, there is always an unusually obvious reason why she hasn't got to third base. You should find it.


There is a slim chance she hasn't said anything because she is scared of rejection just like you, but you've gotta man up and overcome that fear or else no progress is going to be made.