I was reading a post on a forum where someone said that she wouldn't talk to a guy unless he posted his pic...my question for her and everyone else is: wouldn't you rather someone NOT post a picture of themselves, but be honest about who they are and what they look like when you talk? Or would you rather have them post a picture and have you assume it's them, even if it isn't??

Seems to me that if they post a pic of someone else, that's fabrication straight from the get go. So a potential relationship would be out of the question unless you are interested in a relationship founded on lies...personally, I'd rather them not post a pic than to lie about they posted...

My profile says, "Please have the courtesy of having a photo before contacting me."

ahhh, upon meeting them you would know whether they are lieing or not and thats the deal breaker...fake pic gets nothing. real pic gets response.

I'm not here to meet anyone, but it's still creepy talking to someone with no pic at all. Even if it's a fake pic- which wouldn't matter to me, since I'll never meet them- it shows they at least attempted something, you know?

Both would be ideal. Can't I post my real pic and be honest at the same time? :)

If we're talking about just basic communicating on the site, it makes no difference to me either way. Some of my friends here have used pics of all sorts of things other than themselves, at various times -- doesn't change the person, just the symbolic imagery.

Now, if it was a situation where I thought there could be an actual face-to-face meeting, I would prefer to have an idea of what they looked like; but it's not an absolute necessity (although it does help in identifying them once you get there, assuming they really are the one from the pic you saw).

Some people are more reserved and private about their images. I'm OK with that. A good pic is an asset but not exactly an essential.

My post had come from experience...and although I can't be completely positive about who I am talking to...it is a comfort seeing a face to go with the words. I was on another well known site nearly two years ago...a man asked to chat with me...I looked into his eyes in the pic and felt a chill...pure evil was shining through, therefore, I refused to speak to him. Two months later, his face was posted on America's Most Wanted...he had been captured on a double homocide...the murder of an elderly couple that he bludgeoned while robbing their home..a girl that he had met and had continued talking to on that same site had turned him in...so yes...a quick conversation to request a pic is a must for me personally....a small request to feel at ease

Sure, that's acceptable

Flowers? For me? I DO declare... :D

Hey, I'm not knocking your motives at all, I truly understand, I was just curious

I'd like to see at least one pic.

lol

I don't care either way. But then again, I've known so many people who create fake profiles on social sites you wouldn't believe it.

Years ago I had a few extra dollars and thought I would check out eHarmony. I did not post any pictures of myself. All these guys would message me JUST to tell me that it made me seem "dishonest" because they couldn't see what I looked like before they decided whether to invest their oh-so-valuable time and effort into getting to know me. (Eharmony, in case you don't know, costs money to join and they SUPPOSEDLY match you with people you're compatible with. So I figured the best way to tell if the site worked or not was to go by strength of profile info alone, and screw the pics, right?)

So I thought that was interesting.

I'm not gonna go into what started to happen once I started posting pics of myself on other sites; it would take too long.

Just to give you some perspective, though: This one girl I met on another site that me and my current boyfriend both belong to was totally hitting on both of us. I got to know her pretty well. She sent me pictures of herself that in no way resembled the pictures she had posted on the site, which were obviously of other people. I made sure that the pics she sent me were of her by asking the occasional guileles question during our IM conversations.

She sent my boyfriend pictures that were NOT of her. (I guess she thought that he and I never talk to each other, or something...? It's weird how people take this whole "war between the sexes" thing TOTALLY FOR GRANTED.)

I noticed that Helmut was spending a lot of time talking to her on Yahoo. Meanwhile she was getting weirder and weirder with me, being alternately very antagonistic and then switching back to lovey-dovey.

Finally I asked Helmut if he had given her any personal info; he said he had given her his phone number, but that she had never called him. I started to wonder what was going on and did some investigating--it turned out that this nice lady (she was not the age or the size that she advertised herself as being) was getting people's private info by pretending to be a "hot horny chick" online and selling it to another party.

When I discovered this, I sent her picture to Helmut and said, "This is what this girl really looks like. Get your phone number changed NOW." (It was enjoyable to see how embarrassed he was, but that's neither here nor there.)

Anyway, regardless of your attitude toward how you or anybody else represents him or herself online, there is always going to seem like a majority of people who consider you in the wrong.

I hope this was helpful! yours in Chaos, Scarlett

Ummmm, I think a pic is required. At least, for me. But I also require phone calls and sometimes web cam before meeting as well.

I want to know I'm getting what I'm shown, that they are real.

Id like to see at least one pic of the person...I can tell if its a fake...like to see who I'm taking to...an up to date photo would be a real bonus

if they have a fake pic or a pet or kid i jus go by them......

I don't think I'm lying.
<---that's me but I'm not a chef. I also have a policeman picture in my photos, but I'm not a cop.
It should be alright to post fun pics too.

It's cool...just wanted to explain my reasoning

a picture is worth 1,000 words, no photo is worth a no response,unless your attached or in no hurry to meet anyone.

You go E!